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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 727904" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>People with "normal" kids do not understand how hard this is. I said I can't rescue my 19 year old if she doesn't want to help herself. My friend sort of agreed while looking at me like I have three heads. </p><p></p><p>People with normal children don’t get it. They don’t get it because their kids don’t challenge them. I like to take them through a scenario or two and then they either get it or shut up and don’t bother me any more. It kinda goes like this. </p><p>E should be in school you should make him go. </p><p>Me: your absolutely right. How do you propose I do that? </p><p>To which I get a barrage of tactics that I have of course tried and rhey have failed. So the. I ask what would you do if your son </p><p>Won’t get out of bed</p><p>Won’t go to school </p><p>Won’t stop taking drugs </p><p>Won’t stop stealing from you. </p><p>When I have done everything you have me rubbed abive. </p><p>I often get I would make him go to rehab to which I respond what if they refuse to go what then, please tell me “I am so happy for your help and guidance”. You see I love my son and what ever you can do to help me help him I all for it”. </p><p></p><p>This tends to go on for several minutes and they smart ones get it and begin to see the difficult situation we’re in. I have had a few smug ones who round out this conversation by saying “Well my child would never do that” like it is some form of superiority. I then look at this person and say “Well Bless Your Heart” I wish we were as fortunate as you. Conversation over! </p><p></p><p>I believe most people don’t get it because this have simply never been through what we have been through. I look at the roller coaster and learning curve this situation had taken me through, and I get it. </p><p></p><p>And there are some who are truly judgemental. These people I let go of th y serve no purpose in my life. As SWOT says wha other people think of me is none of my business. </p><p></p><p>Being here is a safe and comfortable place. Here I know everyone understands and I know I am not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 727904, member: 21895"] People with "normal" kids do not understand how hard this is. I said I can't rescue my 19 year old if she doesn't want to help herself. My friend sort of agreed while looking at me like I have three heads. People with normal children don’t get it. They don’t get it because their kids don’t challenge them. I like to take them through a scenario or two and then they either get it or shut up and don’t bother me any more. It kinda goes like this. E should be in school you should make him go. Me: your absolutely right. How do you propose I do that? To which I get a barrage of tactics that I have of course tried and rhey have failed. So the. I ask what would you do if your son Won’t get out of bed Won’t go to school Won’t stop taking drugs Won’t stop stealing from you. When I have done everything you have me rubbed abive. I often get I would make him go to rehab to which I respond what if they refuse to go what then, please tell me “I am so happy for your help and guidance”. You see I love my son and what ever you can do to help me help him I all for it”. This tends to go on for several minutes and they smart ones get it and begin to see the difficult situation we’re in. I have had a few smug ones who round out this conversation by saying “Well my child would never do that” like it is some form of superiority. I then look at this person and say “Well Bless Your Heart” I wish we were as fortunate as you. Conversation over! I believe most people don’t get it because this have simply never been through what we have been through. I look at the roller coaster and learning curve this situation had taken me through, and I get it. And there are some who are truly judgemental. These people I let go of th y serve no purpose in my life. As SWOT says wha other people think of me is none of my business. Being here is a safe and comfortable place. Here I know everyone understands and I know I am not alone. [/QUOTE]
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