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<blockquote data-quote="moonglow" data-source="post: 392847" data-attributes="member: 256"><p>Thanks slsh for the words of wisdom from someone who has been there. Kenny doesn't cooperate either and can resist very badly too. His mom had set him up in an apartment there in her city and he had a case worked that would come over and physically give him his medication twice a day at certain times because Kenny would forget to take it. He got where he would be out with whoever his current friends were and not bother to go back to the apartment. Not do the things he was suppose to do to...even if told step by step how to do them. The caseworker was support to pick him up too at certain times to get his medications filled or go to an appointment but Kenny was too busy drinking with his 'friends' and just hanging out with some really bad people that stole from him. He is on disability so he doesn't have to work...don't think he could hold a job anyway. He is just too unstable. He would leave his debit card out with the pin number apparently on it and his friends would take it. But no matter how bad things got, he never learned. He has been cold and hungry and with nothing...but he doesn't learn. He lost his first apartment because another guy moved in and just stayed there...so Kenny left with another friend to go see his girlfriend in another country and they just ended up staying there...bumming from one place to another. </p><p></p><p>I keep reading about how much of the prison population is made up of people like Kenny and we fear that is where he will eventually be at. And you are right, the laws really work against us trying to get help for them before they break the law..and possibly hurt someone doing it. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> And it really makes me so angry how badly the system has failed him (not too mention his two adopted siblings though not blood related). </p><p></p><p>For years and years they just thought he was ADHD and had a learning disability....wrong diagnosis and wrong medications! ugh. I think one of the biggest problems with Kenny (besides not being on his medications of course) is he really can't stand to be in some apartment alone all the time. He is very social and needs to be around people...even if it just to talk...for hours on end. He is drawn to those that like to party and tend to be into drugs..and sex and we suspect he already has a STD which he will go spreading around to any girl dumb enough to be with him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I am just praying he doesn't get any girl pregnant!! Of course my sister didn't raise him that way. She certainly wasn't having wild parties at her home, or drinking or all of this stuff. That is just where he goes...which I realize part of that is being a rebellious teenager. But this one had totally NO common sense whatsoever...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>IF he can actually get him in to see a head shrink...and they actually do the evaluation we have been trying to get happen for weeks now (latest one was cancelled this morning as the dr said she didn't think she was qualified to deal with his sever problems) then maybe they will have some idea if he can be put in any programs or not. </p><p></p><p>Yea its been hard..especially for mom and her husband who has never had to deal with anything like this ever before...not on a day to day basis and its just consuming him. He is doing most of the leg work too. Its really wearing him down. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I try to find information to pass to him to possibly help Kenny. I think he has this idea if he can get Kenny on medications...get him his ID...get him a nice little apartment here Kenny will somehow settle down and things will be better. I have tired telling them what sister said..when he was on medications, he wasn't any better. Just slept alot. Its not a magic bullet. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>Thanks again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="moonglow, post: 392847, member: 256"] Thanks slsh for the words of wisdom from someone who has been there. Kenny doesn't cooperate either and can resist very badly too. His mom had set him up in an apartment there in her city and he had a case worked that would come over and physically give him his medication twice a day at certain times because Kenny would forget to take it. He got where he would be out with whoever his current friends were and not bother to go back to the apartment. Not do the things he was suppose to do to...even if told step by step how to do them. The caseworker was support to pick him up too at certain times to get his medications filled or go to an appointment but Kenny was too busy drinking with his 'friends' and just hanging out with some really bad people that stole from him. He is on disability so he doesn't have to work...don't think he could hold a job anyway. He is just too unstable. He would leave his debit card out with the pin number apparently on it and his friends would take it. But no matter how bad things got, he never learned. He has been cold and hungry and with nothing...but he doesn't learn. He lost his first apartment because another guy moved in and just stayed there...so Kenny left with another friend to go see his girlfriend in another country and they just ended up staying there...bumming from one place to another. I keep reading about how much of the prison population is made up of people like Kenny and we fear that is where he will eventually be at. And you are right, the laws really work against us trying to get help for them before they break the law..and possibly hurt someone doing it. :( And it really makes me so angry how badly the system has failed him (not too mention his two adopted siblings though not blood related). For years and years they just thought he was ADHD and had a learning disability....wrong diagnosis and wrong medications! ugh. I think one of the biggest problems with Kenny (besides not being on his medications of course) is he really can't stand to be in some apartment alone all the time. He is very social and needs to be around people...even if it just to talk...for hours on end. He is drawn to those that like to party and tend to be into drugs..and sex and we suspect he already has a STD which he will go spreading around to any girl dumb enough to be with him. :( I am just praying he doesn't get any girl pregnant!! Of course my sister didn't raise him that way. She certainly wasn't having wild parties at her home, or drinking or all of this stuff. That is just where he goes...which I realize part of that is being a rebellious teenager. But this one had totally NO common sense whatsoever...:( IF he can actually get him in to see a head shrink...and they actually do the evaluation we have been trying to get happen for weeks now (latest one was cancelled this morning as the dr said she didn't think she was qualified to deal with his sever problems) then maybe they will have some idea if he can be put in any programs or not. Yea its been hard..especially for mom and her husband who has never had to deal with anything like this ever before...not on a day to day basis and its just consuming him. He is doing most of the leg work too. Its really wearing him down. :( I try to find information to pass to him to possibly help Kenny. I think he has this idea if he can get Kenny on medications...get him his ID...get him a nice little apartment here Kenny will somehow settle down and things will be better. I have tired telling them what sister said..when he was on medications, he wasn't any better. Just slept alot. Its not a magic bullet. :( Thanks again. [/QUOTE]
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