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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 615297" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I hear you! Luckily, we were able to sign up our son for special classes for nearly a year, and found a medication that helps, and also went to therapy quite often. It is work, work, work but we have all come a long way.</p><p>Sometimes, I even think we are normal. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Then I see how other families operate and I realize, nope, not even close. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>How many other people do I know who have locks on a second refrigerator and all the bedroom doors? How many other people do I know have to meet with-the entire school staff every couple of months? How many other people do I know whose sons collect sheets and blankets on their beds until there is nothing left in the laundry or linen closet? How many other people have kids who consistently wake up in the middle of the night to eat? Who wet the bed at the same age they are learning to drive?</p><p>Just the ones of this board. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Please try to find your son doing something good even if it's little. "Thank you for shutting that door quietly. That was nice." Things that a regular person would normally do, demand extra attention from our kids.</p><p>And the arguing ... I have to still hold up fingers (1,2,3 strikes you're out), and still remember to explain things instead of just saying "I told you so." Because his world doesn't make sense. He doesn't understand why there are societal norms and family rules.</p><p></p><p>I know you have tried everything; I would go back and try again, but choose just ONE behavior and work on it. Don't try to do it all at once. Pick the one you think is most important, that tears the family apart the most. The loud voice? The cr*p on the bathroom walls that *should* be in the toilet? Show, don't tell.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 615297, member: 3419"] I hear you! Luckily, we were able to sign up our son for special classes for nearly a year, and found a medication that helps, and also went to therapy quite often. It is work, work, work but we have all come a long way. Sometimes, I even think we are normal. :) Then I see how other families operate and I realize, nope, not even close. :) How many other people do I know who have locks on a second refrigerator and all the bedroom doors? How many other people do I know have to meet with-the entire school staff every couple of months? How many other people do I know whose sons collect sheets and blankets on their beds until there is nothing left in the laundry or linen closet? How many other people have kids who consistently wake up in the middle of the night to eat? Who wet the bed at the same age they are learning to drive? Just the ones of this board. :) Please try to find your son doing something good even if it's little. "Thank you for shutting that door quietly. That was nice." Things that a regular person would normally do, demand extra attention from our kids. And the arguing ... I have to still hold up fingers (1,2,3 strikes you're out), and still remember to explain things instead of just saying "I told you so." Because his world doesn't make sense. He doesn't understand why there are societal norms and family rules. I know you have tried everything; I would go back and try again, but choose just ONE behavior and work on it. Don't try to do it all at once. Pick the one you think is most important, that tears the family apart the most. The loud voice? The cr*p on the bathroom walls that *should* be in the toilet? Show, don't tell. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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