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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 569051" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>Nancy I agree with you. Often times I've found that they have made it worse. How have they made it worse? Well in a few ways (and this list is not exhaustive by any means):</p><p></p><p>Not truly listening to me, the parent, as to what really was going on and what I observed and sometimes not even their own staff if it was a wrap around services agency (reports inaccurately written too that reflected misinformation they lead them in wrong directions- dead time/delays in proper treatment)</p><p></p><p>Giving wrong medication due to the above or medication that was contraindicated for a particular disorder</p><p></p><p>Staff that were not properly trained to handle the children's issues or were too new/ had their own ideas/ had never dealt with situations like this or don't have children of their own and could not identify with "parents" as a whole</p><p></p><p>In some cases, staff that first looked at "the parent was to blame" with no regard that the child actually had issues, REAL issues!</p><p></p><p>In consistency from one worker to another or the simple LACK of keeping a single worker any length of time to be beneficial (high turn over rate)</p><p></p><p>Many more.....</p><p></p><p>As for residential or boarding schools, you are exactly right on insurance and costs. Many families can't afford it and insurances won't cover it or if they do only for a very limited time and then toss them out too soon and certainly not with enough discharge support or services if any in some cases. Not to mention, the choice to do so comes with it it's own inherent potential risks/problems. The first one is finding the right one, finding one that is "safe" (meaning is quality), worrying about what "might" happen to their child while in their or what their own child might do to another (it can happen), worrying about what else the child might "pick up and learn" additionally to add to their arsenal of behaviors that they didn't have before they went in (happens a lot), etc.</p><p></p><p>I wish there was some sort of consistency/standard across the board that everyone MUST adhere to everywhere (much like schools - though they too aren't perfect in that) from the beginning to the end in mental health treatment. I guess we can dream for a perfect world. I hope and wish to some day get close or closer to it for the sake of our kids....and the world at large!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 569051, member: 455"] Nancy I agree with you. Often times I've found that they have made it worse. How have they made it worse? Well in a few ways (and this list is not exhaustive by any means): Not truly listening to me, the parent, as to what really was going on and what I observed and sometimes not even their own staff if it was a wrap around services agency (reports inaccurately written too that reflected misinformation they lead them in wrong directions- dead time/delays in proper treatment) Giving wrong medication due to the above or medication that was contraindicated for a particular disorder Staff that were not properly trained to handle the children's issues or were too new/ had their own ideas/ had never dealt with situations like this or don't have children of their own and could not identify with "parents" as a whole In some cases, staff that first looked at "the parent was to blame" with no regard that the child actually had issues, REAL issues! In consistency from one worker to another or the simple LACK of keeping a single worker any length of time to be beneficial (high turn over rate) Many more..... As for residential or boarding schools, you are exactly right on insurance and costs. Many families can't afford it and insurances won't cover it or if they do only for a very limited time and then toss them out too soon and certainly not with enough discharge support or services if any in some cases. Not to mention, the choice to do so comes with it it's own inherent potential risks/problems. The first one is finding the right one, finding one that is "safe" (meaning is quality), worrying about what "might" happen to their child while in their or what their own child might do to another (it can happen), worrying about what else the child might "pick up and learn" additionally to add to their arsenal of behaviors that they didn't have before they went in (happens a lot), etc. I wish there was some sort of consistency/standard across the board that everyone MUST adhere to everywhere (much like schools - though they too aren't perfect in that) from the beginning to the end in mental health treatment. I guess we can dream for a perfect world. I hope and wish to some day get close or closer to it for the sake of our kids....and the world at large! [/QUOTE]
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