I just don't get all of this. Dingbat is an intelligent (booksmart) girl. She just graduated from college last month with a 4.0. I don't know if her parents know the whole story yet.She is supposed to call her mom tonight and give her the news. They know she cheated. They know son forgave her and was willing to try to make the marriage work,but she didn't want to. She went home for a week and left the baby with son.She now says she needed time to "think." She supposedly had an appointment with a clinic to have a procedure done. She called him on the way there and told him the news on the phone. She couldn't go through with the procedure then, but still says she may. It is almost a certainty that he is not the father, but until paternity is proven, he is the assumed father. He is responsible for all medical bills. His name can go on the birth certificate. She saw a gynechologist today and returned to son's house with ultrasound pictures and video---how tacky is that. Doesn't that sound like someone who wants to have a baby? He has said he can't raise this child. It's not like he married her and she already had one. She slept with an old boyfriend for about 8 weeks and got pregnant. easy child knows that her choices and bad decisions have caused this. He still, somewhere in his heart, wants to make it work...Poor guy. He has always been a perfectionist and hates to fail at anything. He has talked to an attorney and is having a proposal written up. If she will sign, he will wait to file for divorce--but only if he can still use the adultry grounds to file. If not...I don't know what he'll do. He just wants custody of his 1 year old son.