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<blockquote data-quote="Ithurtz" data-source="post: 765237" data-attributes="member: 32194"><p>Thanks for answering. Let’s me vent more. He has actually quit smoking M last fall and basically gulping down straight vodka. </p><p></p><p>It is a lot of depression and lamenting his upbringing, blaming parents a lot. He cannot let go of the past no matter what therapists, psychiatrists, parents and family tell him. He gets admitted using suicide ideation. He is given medicines and therapy, gets out and says I know what I need to do. Then after a few days of inability for find a job that pays $50K and WFH, he gets disgusted and starts drinking again. </p><p></p><p>He sees his siblings and cousins all successful. They all have completed college with careers in mind. While he was in college, he smoke M constantly, arrested twice on campus for it, and dropped out after 3rd year having 43 credits. Three years one should have 90 credits. So the $60k I paid for his college was for what.</p><p></p><p>Then he returned home to live with his mother and figured out that delivery and Uber jobs don’t require drug screening. And he could set and work when he wanted. Continued with M and alcohol over the years interspersed with 2 inpatient rehabs and a DUI. He did have a couple stretches of 2 years without a problem, got his own rental, and worked at delivery. I at two different times got him jobs, one which he quit in one day and the other required a drug screen which he wouldn’t take.</p><p></p><p>So now he just got out of detox and I’m waiting to hear from him. His car is broke down so he can’t get around and his mothers on the verge of kicking him out and/or moving, so soon he will not have a place. It the past 13 years besides the $60k for college, I’ve gone through another $20k between cars, car repairs, lawyers, and miscellaneous things.</p><p></p><p>I’m in my 70s and this Is dragging me down again. I don’t want to spend any more of my retirement on his recovery if he cannot shake the past and instead follow the regiments he has been advised. </p><p></p><p>I want to help him and said show me some signs that you want to move forward. </p><p></p><p>A</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ithurtz, post: 765237, member: 32194"] Thanks for answering. Let’s me vent more. He has actually quit smoking M last fall and basically gulping down straight vodka. It is a lot of depression and lamenting his upbringing, blaming parents a lot. He cannot let go of the past no matter what therapists, psychiatrists, parents and family tell him. He gets admitted using suicide ideation. He is given medicines and therapy, gets out and says I know what I need to do. Then after a few days of inability for find a job that pays $50K and WFH, he gets disgusted and starts drinking again. He sees his siblings and cousins all successful. They all have completed college with careers in mind. While he was in college, he smoke M constantly, arrested twice on campus for it, and dropped out after 3rd year having 43 credits. Three years one should have 90 credits. So the $60k I paid for his college was for what. Then he returned home to live with his mother and figured out that delivery and Uber jobs don’t require drug screening. And he could set and work when he wanted. Continued with M and alcohol over the years interspersed with 2 inpatient rehabs and a DUI. He did have a couple stretches of 2 years without a problem, got his own rental, and worked at delivery. I at two different times got him jobs, one which he quit in one day and the other required a drug screen which he wouldn’t take. So now he just got out of detox and I’m waiting to hear from him. His car is broke down so he can’t get around and his mothers on the verge of kicking him out and/or moving, so soon he will not have a place. It the past 13 years besides the $60k for college, I’ve gone through another $20k between cars, car repairs, lawyers, and miscellaneous things. I’m in my 70s and this Is dragging me down again. I don’t want to spend any more of my retirement on his recovery if he cannot shake the past and instead follow the regiments he has been advised. I want to help him and said show me some signs that you want to move forward. A [/QUOTE]
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