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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 765264" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>OK. This is good, to a point. No drinking is good. But what is your son looking to you for? </p><p></p><p>This is the thing: the updates you need are from you, not him. He needs to come to live for himself, his own well-being. Not how it affects you. This is the cord that has to be broken. Love is not contingent (or should not be) on actions. Love is not instrumental. Love is not tit for tat. Love is not bartered. Love is not you do this for me, because I did this. </p><p></p><p>I want to underscore this: One of the things we do is live based on how our children are doing. WRONG. We need to locate our well-being in ourselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 765264, member: 18958"] OK. This is good, to a point. No drinking is good. But what is your son looking to you for? This is the thing: the updates you need are from you, not him. He needs to come to live for himself, his own well-being. Not how it affects you. This is the cord that has to be broken. Love is not contingent (or should not be) on actions. Love is not instrumental. Love is not tit for tat. Love is not bartered. Love is not you do this for me, because I did this. I want to underscore this: One of the things we do is live based on how our children are doing. WRONG. We need to locate our well-being in ourselves. [/QUOTE]
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