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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 603270" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>She is back in jail - she was only out 48 hours before they got her back in. She claims she called them and told them where to pick her up - I have not been able to confirm that, yet. But since she tested dirty when she returned, she will now remain in jail until she gives birth. (She claims the Prilosec gave a false positive for meth and swears she didn't use when she was out. I told her even if there was the slightest chance that she was telling the truth, her actions showed differently. She went completely silent on me for 24 hours not answering my calls or texts. I didn't hear anything until she was caught and tested.) They said the rehab is not a lock down facility and they are afraid she will run while the baby is still inside her. So, she will still be sent to rehab <em>after</em> she gives birth and then she is supposed to be transferred to Family Treatment Court which is the two year program where she will have lots of requirements to fulfill or she goes back to jail. Last I did talk to her she called her lawyer but no one is out to be paying him, so he isn't doing anything for her. She wanted to get in front of the judge and beg him to reconsider sending her to rehab now. She said if they were not sending her to a rehab where she could keep Connor, she would ask to go to the other rehab she was in before. I said no way. That one costs money and was not a rehab. It was sober living! She is NOT ready for sober living yet. And she couldn't keep Connor there. The woman needs REAL help. Regardless, I told her I was not doing anything to help her. It is high time for her to clean up her own messes. I have zero sympathy and feel zero responsibility for her happiness. </p><p></p><p>The judge has granted permission for me to be there for the birth, though. I was scared thinking this all would mean that she would give birth literally IN jail, but since found that is not the case. They take her to the health department for all of her doctor's appointments so of course they would bring her to the hospital to deliver. It will be hard facing her but I know I want to be there and would regret not being there if I didn't go. I told her to make sure someone lets me know when she goes into labor. </p><p></p><p>What I do not know yet is if she will still be going to the rehab that allows her to keep him with her. If so, we may only have him for a couple of weeks and then he would be given to her to stay with her in rehab. OR we may be asked to keep him until she completes the program first. I am torn. husband would like for her to complete a rehab and prove herself before getting Connor but I can't help thinking how much she will miss and the bonding that should happen. I am also wondering if having him in rehab with her would make her more apt to stay. Yet I know he would be far better off with us. My court contact has been in jury trials so I have not heard back from her regarding anything. We have just 5 - 6 more weeks until he is born, though. We changed our camping location for Labor day weekend to be closer to her just in case...</p><p></p><p>We would be eligible for foster care money if we went through everything to get certified as foster parents. As grandparents taking care of him, DFCS pretty much hands the child over and steps away. We don't need the money and have decided not to pursue it. We are very stable financially. But if there are services available to him, I would definitely want to take advantage of those. </p><p></p><p> I will be sure to ask DFCS LOTS of questions when I finally DO hear from them. Everything is still so unknown right now. We just had to decide what it is that we are willing to do when asked. </p><p></p><p>Now....we wait....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 603270, member: 15796"] She is back in jail - she was only out 48 hours before they got her back in. She claims she called them and told them where to pick her up - I have not been able to confirm that, yet. But since she tested dirty when she returned, she will now remain in jail until she gives birth. (She claims the Prilosec gave a false positive for meth and swears she didn't use when she was out. I told her even if there was the slightest chance that she was telling the truth, her actions showed differently. She went completely silent on me for 24 hours not answering my calls or texts. I didn't hear anything until she was caught and tested.) They said the rehab is not a lock down facility and they are afraid she will run while the baby is still inside her. So, she will still be sent to rehab [I]after[/I] she gives birth and then she is supposed to be transferred to Family Treatment Court which is the two year program where she will have lots of requirements to fulfill or she goes back to jail. Last I did talk to her she called her lawyer but no one is out to be paying him, so he isn't doing anything for her. She wanted to get in front of the judge and beg him to reconsider sending her to rehab now. She said if they were not sending her to a rehab where she could keep Connor, she would ask to go to the other rehab she was in before. I said no way. That one costs money and was not a rehab. It was sober living! She is NOT ready for sober living yet. And she couldn't keep Connor there. The woman needs REAL help. Regardless, I told her I was not doing anything to help her. It is high time for her to clean up her own messes. I have zero sympathy and feel zero responsibility for her happiness. The judge has granted permission for me to be there for the birth, though. I was scared thinking this all would mean that she would give birth literally IN jail, but since found that is not the case. They take her to the health department for all of her doctor's appointments so of course they would bring her to the hospital to deliver. It will be hard facing her but I know I want to be there and would regret not being there if I didn't go. I told her to make sure someone lets me know when she goes into labor. What I do not know yet is if she will still be going to the rehab that allows her to keep him with her. If so, we may only have him for a couple of weeks and then he would be given to her to stay with her in rehab. OR we may be asked to keep him until she completes the program first. I am torn. husband would like for her to complete a rehab and prove herself before getting Connor but I can't help thinking how much she will miss and the bonding that should happen. I am also wondering if having him in rehab with her would make her more apt to stay. Yet I know he would be far better off with us. My court contact has been in jury trials so I have not heard back from her regarding anything. We have just 5 - 6 more weeks until he is born, though. We changed our camping location for Labor day weekend to be closer to her just in case... We would be eligible for foster care money if we went through everything to get certified as foster parents. As grandparents taking care of him, DFCS pretty much hands the child over and steps away. We don't need the money and have decided not to pursue it. We are very stable financially. But if there are services available to him, I would definitely want to take advantage of those. I will be sure to ask DFCS LOTS of questions when I finally DO hear from them. Everything is still so unknown right now. We just had to decide what it is that we are willing to do when asked. Now....we wait.... [/QUOTE]
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