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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 496391"><p>Northern Ontario? I'm in Northern Ontario as well. Consulting a lawyer is something you must definitely do and I think your husband should be seeing CAS as he has the biological connection to the child. CAS by law will not speak to someone who has not adopted a non-bio child so cover your bases before you attempt this. They may not take you seriously and may say that husband has to be the one (which I wouldn't be surprised that they will say this or do this because they need to cover their legal bases too).</p><p></p><p>You may find yourself paying CS to the CAS group home or foster family too (a small "price to pay" for lack of better words and it happens more often than not). The only way you avoid something like that and I'm not saying this to be cruel or hurt your feelings, it's a fact, is to TPR. Terminate Parental Rights. Your husband is the only one who can do this. You have no say in where they place the child either, if they seek family members out on either side (his, yours, bio-moms) and they say yes that's where he is placed.</p><p></p><p>You can't even call to check up on him either, it sucks because you've spent this much time with him as mom and they don't give a damn because you are not biologically connected (really really sucks because biology sometimes has nothing to do with being a parent at all). I'm sorry you are going through this, hit my inbox on here if you want resources or someone you want to talk to that understands our system and how it works. Or just someone who understands what its like to have a difficult child who is verbally and physically violent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 496391"] Northern Ontario? I'm in Northern Ontario as well. Consulting a lawyer is something you must definitely do and I think your husband should be seeing CAS as he has the biological connection to the child. CAS by law will not speak to someone who has not adopted a non-bio child so cover your bases before you attempt this. They may not take you seriously and may say that husband has to be the one (which I wouldn't be surprised that they will say this or do this because they need to cover their legal bases too). You may find yourself paying CS to the CAS group home or foster family too (a small "price to pay" for lack of better words and it happens more often than not). The only way you avoid something like that and I'm not saying this to be cruel or hurt your feelings, it's a fact, is to TPR. Terminate Parental Rights. Your husband is the only one who can do this. You have no say in where they place the child either, if they seek family members out on either side (his, yours, bio-moms) and they say yes that's where he is placed. You can't even call to check up on him either, it sucks because you've spent this much time with him as mom and they don't give a damn because you are not biologically connected (really really sucks because biology sometimes has nothing to do with being a parent at all). I'm sorry you are going through this, hit my inbox on here if you want resources or someone you want to talk to that understands our system and how it works. Or just someone who understands what its like to have a difficult child who is verbally and physically violent. [/QUOTE]
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