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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 407787" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Jen...</p><p> </p><p>Just hugs.</p><p> </p><p>I have a slightly different point of view... Because you know they say not to sweat the small things? Well, when major chaos is happening, even the anthills look like Everest.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not saying he's right. In fact, the whole lie part - no matter how small it is - makes me angry. I do not deal well with lying.</p><p> </p><p>I had some issues going on with husband. I was putting up with being taken advantage of. Sometimes, I still do it. But when I laid down the law - calmly - something gave. husband has become a Dad, instead of just the guy in the house and it wasn't his problem. No, he's not perfect, and makes me want to scream and punch sometimes, but that's the work part of marriage. in my opinion.</p><p> </p><p>But my point is, right now you are coming down the back side of difficult child's eating issues. And then you get hit with easy child's acting out. And now difficult child's acting out. And you're trying to hold it together. So, yeah, maybe he was wrong. But maybe he wants attention too, and bad attention is better than good, right? (I know, you're rolling your eyes at me, but we ALL have difficult child tendencies occasionally!) He just doesn't quite know how to get it without angering you. And you're already on the edge.</p><p> </p><p>(FWIW, when I'm calm and the house is clean, husband can do something really stupid and I shrug it off, when I am upset one sock hanging over the edge of the hamper and not IN it sends me over the edge...)</p><p> </p><p>HUGS. Your world is seriously chaotic right now. He needs to know, though, that you WILL NOT put up with this kind of behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 407787, member: 6705"] Jen... Just hugs. I have a slightly different point of view... Because you know they say not to sweat the small things? Well, when major chaos is happening, even the anthills look like Everest. I'm not saying he's right. In fact, the whole lie part - no matter how small it is - makes me angry. I do not deal well with lying. I had some issues going on with husband. I was putting up with being taken advantage of. Sometimes, I still do it. But when I laid down the law - calmly - something gave. husband has become a Dad, instead of just the guy in the house and it wasn't his problem. No, he's not perfect, and makes me want to scream and punch sometimes, but that's the work part of marriage. in my opinion. But my point is, right now you are coming down the back side of difficult child's eating issues. And then you get hit with easy child's acting out. And now difficult child's acting out. And you're trying to hold it together. So, yeah, maybe he was wrong. But maybe he wants attention too, and bad attention is better than good, right? (I know, you're rolling your eyes at me, but we ALL have difficult child tendencies occasionally!) He just doesn't quite know how to get it without angering you. And you're already on the edge. (FWIW, when I'm calm and the house is clean, husband can do something really stupid and I shrug it off, when I am upset one sock hanging over the edge of the hamper and not IN it sends me over the edge...) HUGS. Your world is seriously chaotic right now. He needs to know, though, that you WILL NOT put up with this kind of behavior. [/QUOTE]
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