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My husband's utter stupidity, or laziness, or combination of both is truely wearing on my last nerve. So beware ladies.......This is a vent regarding husband. 
In 25 yrs my husband has never learned to maintain a vehicle. He knows how to do it, just is too lazy to do it. I stopped letting him "repair" cars when I realized all he did was distroy them, or cost us 3 times as much to fix not only the original problem, but all the others husband created while attempting to fix it.
Well.......back in the spring husband hit a deer. Messed up his Kia pretty good. husband wanted sister in law to fix it. I asked husband if he turned the accident into the insurance. No. Did he file a report with the sheriff? No. He didn't do either with the excuse our deductable is too high and he'd wind up having to pay for it anyway. A lie. He was just too lazy to bother. His car, his problem. sister in law adjusted things and removed unecessary broken things and got his car running again, although it no longer looks pretty.
So 2 weeks ago I come home and Travis is sitting on the porch. husband's kia is in the drive with the hood up. (insert inward groan of agony here) Travis tells me he had to call a cab because husband's car had blown up. I was furious. Turned out not to be the case, but if it had...it would've been the 2nd car husband blew up the engine on due to neglect.
husband starts harassing me to have sister in law look at it for him. And this is all I've heard for 2 weeks. sister in law did come over and look at it. husband had let all of the tranmission fluid and oil run dry!
sister in law told him to fill them up and he ought to be fine. (knowing that whatever damage husband did was done and there wasn't anything he could do about it) husband fills them up. Drives to work the next day and once again starts harrassing me to have sister in law work on it.
Now sister in law barely tolerates husband. husband has never done anything for sister in law. Ever. Favors sister in law does for husband, he's really doing for ME. sister in law doesn't like the way husband treats me or the kids. Also sister in law works 3rd shift. 7pm until 7am. husband expects him to drop his whole life and come over here and work on his car. And when sister in law doesn't or can't.......I get to listen to a 60 yr old having temper tantrums. Lovely.
So all week I've delt with husband temper. Sunday husband gets it thru his head the problem is his plugs and wires. (sister in law has already changed them once) He wanted sister in law to do it sunday even though I explained for the umpteenth time sister in law can't do involved stuff on days he works. And I told husband that sister in law might look at it when he came over on his way to his Mom's for dinner cuz he was stopping by to remove the air conditioner from the livingroom window. Not 10 mins later I hear the God awful grinding from the livingroom....husband ripped the air conditioner out of the window. Travis said he bent the frame of the window.
I know husband is POed to the max that if anything around here needs fixed I've gotten into the habit of asking sister in law. Sorry. I got tired of husband either half *ssing the job, making it worse, or waiting forever to have him never do it!
I'd ignore the whole car thing and make husband deal with it except he has to have the car to work. (and I have enough trouble keeping him employed as it is!) So he's using my car dammit. And that I don't like one bit!!! So when I asked easy child to please have sister in law come and do those stupid plugs and points again on his day off to remind him he's doing it so that I can have my car back before husband distroys it too.
Two more years and he's so outta here. I find myself counting the minutes.
ARGH
In 25 yrs my husband has never learned to maintain a vehicle. He knows how to do it, just is too lazy to do it. I stopped letting him "repair" cars when I realized all he did was distroy them, or cost us 3 times as much to fix not only the original problem, but all the others husband created while attempting to fix it.
Well.......back in the spring husband hit a deer. Messed up his Kia pretty good. husband wanted sister in law to fix it. I asked husband if he turned the accident into the insurance. No. Did he file a report with the sheriff? No. He didn't do either with the excuse our deductable is too high and he'd wind up having to pay for it anyway. A lie. He was just too lazy to bother. His car, his problem. sister in law adjusted things and removed unecessary broken things and got his car running again, although it no longer looks pretty.
So 2 weeks ago I come home and Travis is sitting on the porch. husband's kia is in the drive with the hood up. (insert inward groan of agony here) Travis tells me he had to call a cab because husband's car had blown up. I was furious. Turned out not to be the case, but if it had...it would've been the 2nd car husband blew up the engine on due to neglect.
husband starts harassing me to have sister in law look at it for him. And this is all I've heard for 2 weeks. sister in law did come over and look at it. husband had let all of the tranmission fluid and oil run dry!
sister in law told him to fill them up and he ought to be fine. (knowing that whatever damage husband did was done and there wasn't anything he could do about it) husband fills them up. Drives to work the next day and once again starts harrassing me to have sister in law work on it.Now sister in law barely tolerates husband. husband has never done anything for sister in law. Ever. Favors sister in law does for husband, he's really doing for ME. sister in law doesn't like the way husband treats me or the kids. Also sister in law works 3rd shift. 7pm until 7am. husband expects him to drop his whole life and come over here and work on his car. And when sister in law doesn't or can't.......I get to listen to a 60 yr old having temper tantrums. Lovely.
So all week I've delt with husband temper. Sunday husband gets it thru his head the problem is his plugs and wires. (sister in law has already changed them once) He wanted sister in law to do it sunday even though I explained for the umpteenth time sister in law can't do involved stuff on days he works. And I told husband that sister in law might look at it when he came over on his way to his Mom's for dinner cuz he was stopping by to remove the air conditioner from the livingroom window. Not 10 mins later I hear the God awful grinding from the livingroom....husband ripped the air conditioner out of the window.
Travis said he bent the frame of the window.I know husband is POed to the max that if anything around here needs fixed I've gotten into the habit of asking sister in law. Sorry. I got tired of husband either half *ssing the job, making it worse, or waiting forever to have him never do it!
I'd ignore the whole car thing and make husband deal with it except he has to have the car to work. (and I have enough trouble keeping him employed as it is!) So he's using my car dammit. And that I don't like one bit!!! So when I asked easy child to please have sister in law come and do those stupid plugs and points again on his day off to remind him he's doing it so that I can have my car back before husband distroys it too.
Two more years and he's so outta here. I find myself counting the minutes.
ARGH
) and having to deal with my life, my son, his "things" it has made me pretty able at assessing a situation and going "Hmmmmm now.....if I don't get involved or help maintain HOW is this going to affect MY life later?" and make my very reserved choices based on those thoughts. BECAUSE a lot of times I did that in my life and it ended up WORSE for me. (as is the case with your husband not doing his part on his own car.) 
