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<blockquote data-quote="jessica_1" data-source="post: 511943" data-attributes="member: 14073"><p>I just can not put into words how excited I am for all the information you all have supplied to me. I don't feel so alone, hopeless, and lost today! </p><p></p><p>Quick back ground check! My son and I have been on our own since he was a little over a year old. Dad was still in the picture for visitation (when it was conveinent for HIM) My son was placed in KinderCare Learning Center at the age of two so I could work. He did find here for the next three years. Never biting, hitting, disruptive, etc. He just kind of blended in with the rest and had friends. He was an excellent infant. No issues/concerns at ALL. He spoke on time, walked on time, etc. Everything was appropriate (per other parents, peditrician, and day care.) In May, before his Kindergarten year, I had to have back surgery. Which equalled no work, no money for day care, and him staying home with me until school started in Aug. In Sept. Dad moved to OK (we are in KY). In late Sept. his kindergarten teacher asked that I have him tested for ADHD. We both completed the written questions and I turned back in to our peditrician. Peditircian said it is to early and not enough consistance to his behavior to diagose him with ADHD. He didn't met all requirements at that time. We kind of blamed his issues on environment. New to school, dad leaving, mom having surgery, we moved into a new home that summer, etc. I began him in a school group counseling and the instructor said he was the best of all his kids. He used my son as an example on how to act for the other children. He was the first to complete tasks and built confidence in doing so. At the same time I started him with a one on one counselor at school. She reported she never saw his outburst of anger or ADHD symptoms. We also began outside family counseling. (I think it helped me more than my son.) We pushed through kindergarten. He then went to YMCA for the summer. He did okay. Some days he would be disruptive and throw a fit, but nothing to the max as throwing items or hurting other children. And not as frequent. We started first grade and things were amazing! His school office even called me to tell me that he was doing great and well improved from the last year. He was selected as a reward to be the office assistant for a day. I have had several meetings with the following school faculity all attending meeting: principal, assistant principal, school counselor, my sons individual counselor, myself, child advator, and teachers. Academiclly, he is okay. Teacher says he could be way more advanced if he would slow down, stay focused, and overcome redirection quickly instead of throwing a fit and holding onto his anger for a long period of time. Our family counselor finally said "I don't think I can help you anymore. I have shown you and you have exercised all the tools I have in my tool box." That was our last session about two months ago. His group counseling was only available for six weeks in kindergarten, that has ceased. His one on one has charged me incorrectly for the last three months ($800 a month fo 180 minutes of counseling) which I am finacially unable to pay. Therefore, that stopped three weeks ago. <u><strong>MIDWEST MOM</strong></u> - My son is an only child. While in my care I do not see the same behavior they express happens at school. He does throw fits that are not age appropriate. Going on six, he will fall out on floor, whins, and acts as a two year old. For YEARS I have said that his dad is bi-polar. Just my thought, never actually tested. My son has unbelievable anger over nothing. He will line up Hot Wheel cars and if the cat runs thru and knocks them out of place...watch out! He is instantly MAD and seeing red! He does not hit me and I can make him do as told. I have no other children to compare to. So I am kind of walking thru this blind. <u><strong>BUDDY</strong></u> - I had him evaluated three weeks ago with a Behavioral-Developmental Pediatrician and a Clinical Phsychologist. His learning disability was said to be reading. He is at a beginner first grade level. They said that his Visual was "off the charts" He can see and memorize just about anything. That is why he does well in spelling, he is memorizing the words, not using phonics. The doctor told me to google "Visually Giifted Children" They said he was ADHD due to his impulsive behaviors ... attempting to pull the school fire alarm! <u><strong>HAOZI</strong></u> - I suggested Sensory Disorder to these doctors who performed the evaluation along with Autism. They both said no, my son did not show signs of either one. The mood disorder ... that is all that was said. They did not label is "depression", "bi-polar", etc. I am suppose to wait to receive a written report of their results, I called today and they said it would be late next week.</p><p></p><p>Today, my child has to spend the whole day in the principals office. I have to believe, with all that I am, that he does not want to live like this. I keep promising him that I will try my hardest to make life wonderful and enjoyable for him. He gets in the car in the afternoon and will tell me "The other kids hate me because I am mean." He always blames other people for his actions. (Is this just a six year old trait?) He has said to me before "I want to cut off my hands. They make me do bad things." </p><p></p><p>Considering that I have had several meetings with all faculity at one time at the school...is this the IEP? If the school can evaluate, why did I just spend <strong>$1200.00 </strong>for an outside evaluatation? The school seems to be very helpful, but maybe it is just because I don't know any different. What is an SD school? </p><p></p><p>This evening I plan to purchase <em>The Explosive Child</em> and <em>What The Explosive Child Is Trying To Tell You</em>. I am actually excited! Each new day I believe is that start to a better life for my child. I have to hold on to that or we will both lose this battle. Losing is not an option for me when it comes to him! Not an option!</p><p></p><p>Again, thank you for ALL the information.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jessica_1, post: 511943, member: 14073"] I just can not put into words how excited I am for all the information you all have supplied to me. I don't feel so alone, hopeless, and lost today! Quick back ground check! My son and I have been on our own since he was a little over a year old. Dad was still in the picture for visitation (when it was conveinent for HIM) My son was placed in KinderCare Learning Center at the age of two so I could work. He did find here for the next three years. Never biting, hitting, disruptive, etc. He just kind of blended in with the rest and had friends. He was an excellent infant. No issues/concerns at ALL. He spoke on time, walked on time, etc. Everything was appropriate (per other parents, peditrician, and day care.) In May, before his Kindergarten year, I had to have back surgery. Which equalled no work, no money for day care, and him staying home with me until school started in Aug. In Sept. Dad moved to OK (we are in KY). In late Sept. his kindergarten teacher asked that I have him tested for ADHD. We both completed the written questions and I turned back in to our peditrician. Peditircian said it is to early and not enough consistance to his behavior to diagose him with ADHD. He didn't met all requirements at that time. We kind of blamed his issues on environment. New to school, dad leaving, mom having surgery, we moved into a new home that summer, etc. I began him in a school group counseling and the instructor said he was the best of all his kids. He used my son as an example on how to act for the other children. He was the first to complete tasks and built confidence in doing so. At the same time I started him with a one on one counselor at school. She reported she never saw his outburst of anger or ADHD symptoms. We also began outside family counseling. (I think it helped me more than my son.) We pushed through kindergarten. He then went to YMCA for the summer. He did okay. Some days he would be disruptive and throw a fit, but nothing to the max as throwing items or hurting other children. And not as frequent. We started first grade and things were amazing! His school office even called me to tell me that he was doing great and well improved from the last year. He was selected as a reward to be the office assistant for a day. I have had several meetings with the following school faculity all attending meeting: principal, assistant principal, school counselor, my sons individual counselor, myself, child advator, and teachers. Academiclly, he is okay. Teacher says he could be way more advanced if he would slow down, stay focused, and overcome redirection quickly instead of throwing a fit and holding onto his anger for a long period of time. Our family counselor finally said "I don't think I can help you anymore. I have shown you and you have exercised all the tools I have in my tool box." That was our last session about two months ago. His group counseling was only available for six weeks in kindergarten, that has ceased. His one on one has charged me incorrectly for the last three months ($800 a month fo 180 minutes of counseling) which I am finacially unable to pay. Therefore, that stopped three weeks ago. [U][B]MIDWEST MOM[/B][/U] - My son is an only child. While in my care I do not see the same behavior they express happens at school. He does throw fits that are not age appropriate. Going on six, he will fall out on floor, whins, and acts as a two year old. For YEARS I have said that his dad is bi-polar. Just my thought, never actually tested. My son has unbelievable anger over nothing. He will line up Hot Wheel cars and if the cat runs thru and knocks them out of place...watch out! He is instantly MAD and seeing red! He does not hit me and I can make him do as told. I have no other children to compare to. So I am kind of walking thru this blind. [U][B]BUDDY[/B][/U] - I had him evaluated three weeks ago with a Behavioral-Developmental Pediatrician and a Clinical Phsychologist. His learning disability was said to be reading. He is at a beginner first grade level. They said that his Visual was "off the charts" He can see and memorize just about anything. That is why he does well in spelling, he is memorizing the words, not using phonics. The doctor told me to google "Visually Giifted Children" They said he was ADHD due to his impulsive behaviors ... attempting to pull the school fire alarm! [U][B]HAOZI[/B][/U] - I suggested Sensory Disorder to these doctors who performed the evaluation along with Autism. They both said no, my son did not show signs of either one. The mood disorder ... that is all that was said. They did not label is "depression", "bi-polar", etc. I am suppose to wait to receive a written report of their results, I called today and they said it would be late next week. Today, my child has to spend the whole day in the principals office. I have to believe, with all that I am, that he does not want to live like this. I keep promising him that I will try my hardest to make life wonderful and enjoyable for him. He gets in the car in the afternoon and will tell me "The other kids hate me because I am mean." He always blames other people for his actions. (Is this just a six year old trait?) He has said to me before "I want to cut off my hands. They make me do bad things." Considering that I have had several meetings with all faculity at one time at the school...is this the IEP? If the school can evaluate, why did I just spend [B]$1200.00 [/B]for an outside evaluatation? The school seems to be very helpful, but maybe it is just because I don't know any different. What is an SD school? This evening I plan to purchase [I]The Explosive Child[/I] and [I]What The Explosive Child Is Trying To Tell You[/I]. I am actually excited! Each new day I believe is that start to a better life for my child. I have to hold on to that or we will both lose this battle. Losing is not an option for me when it comes to him! Not an option! Again, thank you for ALL the information. [/QUOTE]
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