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I am afraid of my 19 year old sons temper
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 750840" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I remember when you first posted about this, RN.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you worked it out but I don't see his substance use and yours as the same. You and your husband did not because of your drinking arrive at a degraded life, with car crashes and hospitalizations and multiple treatment centers. You did not lose jobs, have to leave your home, steal pills or other things.</p><p></p><p> I am not downing our sons. I am saying that it's not the same thing to drink socially and to be dependent on drugs or controlled substances, and if our children do not see that, and see their potential peril, it's a problem.</p><p></p><p>The thing here is that <em>it's not your problem. </em> I guess I am seeing this, now. I<em>t's their problem.</em></p><p></p><p>My son is back home, to a property I own, living there with M. In two incidences he smoked marijuana on my property (that I know about). Once in my side yard, and in the other yard. When he smoked here, I made him leave both houses and he spent one night back in the big metro.</p><p></p><p>I realized quickly I did not want him gone. That it's just not worth it. I reiterated the boundary and I made peace with the idea that he'd use away from me, but not in my face. I have come to the acceptance, like you, that what he does away is just not my problem.</p><p></p><p>With my own son he does NOT get that the mj is a problem. He actually said this dumb thing:<em> It's only that I spend too much money on it.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I guess the bottom line here is that the growing up is on both of our parts, mine and his. So, so much time on this board, the learning is our learning that we have no control, and it's not our business.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 750840, member: 18958"] I remember when you first posted about this, RN. I am glad you worked it out but I don't see his substance use and yours as the same. You and your husband did not because of your drinking arrive at a degraded life, with car crashes and hospitalizations and multiple treatment centers. You did not lose jobs, have to leave your home, steal pills or other things. I am not downing our sons. I am saying that it's not the same thing to drink socially and to be dependent on drugs or controlled substances, and if our children do not see that, and see their potential peril, it's a problem. The thing here is that [I]it's not your problem. [/I] I guess I am seeing this, now. I[I]t's their problem.[/I] My son is back home, to a property I own, living there with M. In two incidences he smoked marijuana on my property (that I know about). Once in my side yard, and in the other yard. When he smoked here, I made him leave both houses and he spent one night back in the big metro. I realized quickly I did not want him gone. That it's just not worth it. I reiterated the boundary and I made peace with the idea that he'd use away from me, but not in my face. I have come to the acceptance, like you, that what he does away is just not my problem. With my own son he does NOT get that the mj is a problem. He actually said this dumb thing:[I] It's only that I spend too much money on it. [/I] I guess the bottom line here is that the growing up is on both of our parts, mine and his. So, so much time on this board, the learning is our learning that we have no control, and it's not our business. [/QUOTE]
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