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I am afraid of my 19 year old sons temper
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 750854" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>These are eternal issues. We have a son of a similar age who recently got into very serious (felony) legal trouble. He is also a drug abuser. Over the last several months we have learned the true extent of his involvement in drug use - and sadly, also dealing. It is heartbreaking as a parent.</p><p></p><p>I will not allow our son to live with us due to his history of violent behaviors and his refusal to take the psychiatric medication he desperately needs in order to live calmly and peacefully among others. I am willing to provide financial and other material support. I am not willing to enable him.</p><p></p><p>He isn't my biological child so my spouse and I have had many difficult conversations around this subject, and I'm sure many more are to come. Though I'm not sure my stance would be different even if he was my biological kid.</p><p></p><p>In the end, you get to decide how much is too much. There are some people who are willing to endure absolute horror at the hands of their troubled children, up to and including assault and the endangerment of life and property. I am not willing to do that. </p><p></p><p>I agree with others who have posted that it is critical to accept that our children are CHOOSING their lifestyle and that nothing we can do will make them change their ways. Only they can make that choice, usually after they lose everything, get arrested, etc. And sadly, some have to suffer this way many times before they finally wake up. And even worse, some never wake up at all.</p><p></p><p>We can't live your life for you. Keep posting and try to find an Al Anon meeting if you can. </p><p></p><p>Please protect your innocent pets from your son. They don't deserve to be injured or killed by his carelessness and/or cruelty.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 750854, member: 13303"] These are eternal issues. We have a son of a similar age who recently got into very serious (felony) legal trouble. He is also a drug abuser. Over the last several months we have learned the true extent of his involvement in drug use - and sadly, also dealing. It is heartbreaking as a parent. I will not allow our son to live with us due to his history of violent behaviors and his refusal to take the psychiatric medication he desperately needs in order to live calmly and peacefully among others. I am willing to provide financial and other material support. I am not willing to enable him. He isn't my biological child so my spouse and I have had many difficult conversations around this subject, and I'm sure many more are to come. Though I'm not sure my stance would be different even if he was my biological kid. In the end, you get to decide how much is too much. There are some people who are willing to endure absolute horror at the hands of their troubled children, up to and including assault and the endangerment of life and property. I am not willing to do that. I agree with others who have posted that it is critical to accept that our children are CHOOSING their lifestyle and that nothing we can do will make them change their ways. Only they can make that choice, usually after they lose everything, get arrested, etc. And sadly, some have to suffer this way many times before they finally wake up. And even worse, some never wake up at all. We can't live your life for you. Keep posting and try to find an Al Anon meeting if you can. Please protect your innocent pets from your son. They don't deserve to be injured or killed by his carelessness and/or cruelty. [/QUOTE]
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