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I am at my wits end with this child! :P Please help.
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 381463" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Thanks for the extra info. I've only got a couple of minutes, but there are multiple things going on here.</p><p></p><p>1) the poor kid has a lot of stuff going on and doesn't have much idea of what is right and what is wrong. You're behind the 8-ball right from the start as stepmother, plus you're trying to handle this with strictness which, while appropriate under oter circumstances, is setting this kid off BECAUSE others in hr life have engendered her withj a sense of entitlement. You will get better usccess if you mesh with a different method. Read "Explosive Child". Your methods are not wrong; just tat other methods here are probably more right.</p><p></p><p>2) There could be something else going on in terms of underlying problems. But with all the other crud, it's hard to tell. When you can get the other issues managed better, what you are left with is what needs a diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>But to get the other stuff managed better, because you are being unwittingly undermined by the others in her life, you need to change. You have done nothing wrong but this is not about fault, this is about you being successful in what you want to achieve. And this will help you succeed. That book is brilliant. It also works on "normal" kids, and other people too. I found it made my life a lot easier.</p><p></p><p>There are links here (Early Childhood has a sticky) which can give you more information.</p><p></p><p>Sorry about the typos and the rush - heading out NOW to take difficult child 3 to his specialist, re medications. I'll check in later. I know my husband tracks my posts here, he might have something to add.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 381463, member: 1991"] Thanks for the extra info. I've only got a couple of minutes, but there are multiple things going on here. 1) the poor kid has a lot of stuff going on and doesn't have much idea of what is right and what is wrong. You're behind the 8-ball right from the start as stepmother, plus you're trying to handle this with strictness which, while appropriate under oter circumstances, is setting this kid off BECAUSE others in hr life have engendered her withj a sense of entitlement. You will get better usccess if you mesh with a different method. Read "Explosive Child". Your methods are not wrong; just tat other methods here are probably more right. 2) There could be something else going on in terms of underlying problems. But with all the other crud, it's hard to tell. When you can get the other issues managed better, what you are left with is what needs a diagnosis. But to get the other stuff managed better, because you are being unwittingly undermined by the others in her life, you need to change. You have done nothing wrong but this is not about fault, this is about you being successful in what you want to achieve. And this will help you succeed. That book is brilliant. It also works on "normal" kids, and other people too. I found it made my life a lot easier. There are links here (Early Childhood has a sticky) which can give you more information. Sorry about the typos and the rush - heading out NOW to take difficult child 3 to his specialist, re medications. I'll check in later. I know my husband tracks my posts here, he might have something to add. Marg [/QUOTE]
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