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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 748557" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry she is this way. It is truly important to contact CPS about her behavior, especially if you suspect she is doing drugs. Pot use by a minor is illegal, and blowing pot smoke around your kid is just as dangeorus as having him smoke a joint. It is HARD to call the cops on people you care about, but you MUST put a dependent child's welfare above that of an adult. The adult is making the choices, and the kid suffers from them. It just isn't safe to leave her child with her with no safety net to make sure he is safe. It may be that she blames you for the call and won't ever speak to you again. If it protects Jaden, it is IMPORTANT to call CPS. Often as RESPONSIBLE adults, we have to place the important above the sad or upsetting. Jaden isn't being given any choices here, and it could result in serious harm or death. </p><p></p><p>I DID report a family member to CPS years ago. It caused some major problems between me and my family, but the behavior was completely out of line and help was provided and accepted. Sadly, I didn't have the first hand knowledge of later problems when my niece was left with her junkie mother and her junkie mother's boyfriends. My folks knew what was going on, and provided $$ to help when the lights would be shut off or she bought drugs instead of paying rent. At as young as SIX, my niece would have to go into my parents house and ask for money so they wouldn't be "homeless" or whatever. If my parents had withheld the $$, Niece would have been taken away, saving YEARS of abuse. </p><p></p><p>Think about Jaden. Do what is best for him. He should be the focus. You cannot force his mother to get help, but you can force her to let Jaden get help. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are in this situation. It really is awful and painful. Pull away from Kay. She simply is not ready to get help, and she may never be. Don't continue to let her abuse you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 748557, member: 1233"] I am sorry she is this way. It is truly important to contact CPS about her behavior, especially if you suspect she is doing drugs. Pot use by a minor is illegal, and blowing pot smoke around your kid is just as dangeorus as having him smoke a joint. It is HARD to call the cops on people you care about, but you MUST put a dependent child's welfare above that of an adult. The adult is making the choices, and the kid suffers from them. It just isn't safe to leave her child with her with no safety net to make sure he is safe. It may be that she blames you for the call and won't ever speak to you again. If it protects Jaden, it is IMPORTANT to call CPS. Often as RESPONSIBLE adults, we have to place the important above the sad or upsetting. Jaden isn't being given any choices here, and it could result in serious harm or death. I DID report a family member to CPS years ago. It caused some major problems between me and my family, but the behavior was completely out of line and help was provided and accepted. Sadly, I didn't have the first hand knowledge of later problems when my niece was left with her junkie mother and her junkie mother's boyfriends. My folks knew what was going on, and provided $$ to help when the lights would be shut off or she bought drugs instead of paying rent. At as young as SIX, my niece would have to go into my parents house and ask for money so they wouldn't be "homeless" or whatever. If my parents had withheld the $$, Niece would have been taken away, saving YEARS of abuse. Think about Jaden. Do what is best for him. He should be the focus. You cannot force his mother to get help, but you can force her to let Jaden get help. I am sorry you are in this situation. It really is awful and painful. Pull away from Kay. She simply is not ready to get help, and she may never be. Don't continue to let her abuse you. [/QUOTE]
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