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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 544796" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I too am sorry you are facing this. But first - take a deep breath. You need to stay calm and rational (and I understand that isn't easy.) </p><p></p><p>Your son's behaviour is worrying, but don't freak out too much because of one or two websites. Kids (and people in general) are curious. Internet has made checking out macabre things easy and teens are first ones to do so. The dog thing is most likely pure curiosity. More worrying are several stories about sex between siblings. Then again it too can be curiosity or excitement of the breaking a taboo in his head (and probably nothing to do with his actual sister, sex fantasies have often a lot to do with taboos and little with reality.) Of course it could unfortunately also be something less harmless. Then again, if that 'several' is something around 10or 20 stories, I would think more in line of curiosity. When people get sexually interested something that is a taboo, they often either move quickly on, amuse themselves inside their heads with it, or in worse case get obsessed. And if they get obsessed it is likely not be five or twenty stories or pictures but hundreds or thousands, and only after that, if even then, they may even start to think about making it reality. Overcoming taboo in one's head doesn't happen quickly.</p><p></p><p>As sickly as this makes you feel, it may be a good idea to concentrate to his behaviour, not to something that may, or may not, go on inside his head. How does he behave around his sister? Is he even paying her any attention at all (many/most teen boys think their little sisters pure nuisance and don't pay much attention to them if not to annoy them to amuse themselves when bored)? Have you ever noticed him hanging around when she is changing her clothes or taking a shower? That would be worrying. But if he is not paying a lot of attention to her, it is very possible that he doesn't really connect anything about he has read to <em>his</em> sister.</p><p></p><p>Of course it is wise to talk to your daughter. But maybe start with her about how she generally feels about her brother, what are her complaints about him. That could be very telling. Does she behave uneasy or is she just angry with him because of the normal annoyances with having a difficult child sibling. If she feels uneasy and it has something to do with sex, then it really is a time to think about getting your difficult child out of your house (would your mother really take him, or is she only fond of giving advices?) If she is just plain annoyed and angry with him I wouldn't be quite that worried about this. But of course this is something you really have to talk with his psychiatrist (when you have an appointment.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 544796, member: 14557"] I too am sorry you are facing this. But first - take a deep breath. You need to stay calm and rational (and I understand that isn't easy.) Your son's behaviour is worrying, but don't freak out too much because of one or two websites. Kids (and people in general) are curious. Internet has made checking out macabre things easy and teens are first ones to do so. The dog thing is most likely pure curiosity. More worrying are several stories about sex between siblings. Then again it too can be curiosity or excitement of the breaking a taboo in his head (and probably nothing to do with his actual sister, sex fantasies have often a lot to do with taboos and little with reality.) Of course it could unfortunately also be something less harmless. Then again, if that 'several' is something around 10or 20 stories, I would think more in line of curiosity. When people get sexually interested something that is a taboo, they often either move quickly on, amuse themselves inside their heads with it, or in worse case get obsessed. And if they get obsessed it is likely not be five or twenty stories or pictures but hundreds or thousands, and only after that, if even then, they may even start to think about making it reality. Overcoming taboo in one's head doesn't happen quickly. As sickly as this makes you feel, it may be a good idea to concentrate to his behaviour, not to something that may, or may not, go on inside his head. How does he behave around his sister? Is he even paying her any attention at all (many/most teen boys think their little sisters pure nuisance and don't pay much attention to them if not to annoy them to amuse themselves when bored)? Have you ever noticed him hanging around when she is changing her clothes or taking a shower? That would be worrying. But if he is not paying a lot of attention to her, it is very possible that he doesn't really connect anything about he has read to [I]his[/I] sister. Of course it is wise to talk to your daughter. But maybe start with her about how she generally feels about her brother, what are her complaints about him. That could be very telling. Does she behave uneasy or is she just angry with him because of the normal annoyances with having a difficult child sibling. If she feels uneasy and it has something to do with sex, then it really is a time to think about getting your difficult child out of your house (would your mother really take him, or is she only fond of giving advices?) If she is just plain annoyed and angry with him I wouldn't be quite that worried about this. But of course this is something you really have to talk with his psychiatrist (when you have an appointment.) [/QUOTE]
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