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<blockquote data-quote="kris" data-source="post: 26144" data-attributes="member: 74"><p><span style='font-family: Georgia'> <span style='font-size: 14pt'> <span style="color: #6600CC"> <em>kjs, i know you are feeling very overwhelmed & unsupported by your family. repeatedly members here have suggested that you might benefit from medication & some talk therapy. i'm sure it seems like just one more burden, but i think you really need to do this.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>for the situation to change you have to change your direction & you need help to do that. fran used to say....frequently lol....that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over & expecting different results. it's an old say that carries so much truth with-it. in order to break your son's cycle you must first break your own. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>i think giving up the homework battle is one of the hardest for us. greene puts homework in basket C (that's the stuff you just ignore). teachers hate when a parent does this....they view it as being unsupportive of them. however, your first priority must be your family & specifically the relationship with-your son. homework has become a huge battleground between you & difficult child & by extention husband. that must stop for any progress to be made.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>to be brutally honest with-you if i were difficult child i wouldn't have engaged you via IM either. he knew that he would get yet another lecture about homework not done which would lead to arguments over other things. in a sense he was doing what we've recommended you do.....DETACH. it certainly didn't have the desired effect because it made you angry & hurt. .....and the cycle repeats....and repeats....and repeats.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>please see your primary care doctor & ask about medications & a referral to a local therapist. husband is not going to try to break this cycle....he's not in it. that means it's up to you to make some changes. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>right now the priority needs to be you....not difficult child. once you are in a better place then you can work on getting difficult child more stable. please, kjs, give it some serious thought.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>kris </em> </span> </span> </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kris, post: 26144, member: 74"] <span style='font-family: Georgia'> <span style='font-size: 14pt'> <span style="color: #6600CC"> [i]kjs, i know you are feeling very overwhelmed & unsupported by your family. repeatedly members here have suggested that you might benefit from medication & some talk therapy. i'm sure it seems like just one more burden, but i think you really need to do this. for the situation to change you have to change your direction & you need help to do that. fran used to say....frequently lol....that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over & expecting different results. it's an old say that carries so much truth with-it. in order to break your son's cycle you must first break your own. i think giving up the homework battle is one of the hardest for us. greene puts homework in basket C (that's the stuff you just ignore). teachers hate when a parent does this....they view it as being unsupportive of them. however, your first priority must be your family & specifically the relationship with-your son. homework has become a huge battleground between you & difficult child & by extention husband. that must stop for any progress to be made. to be brutally honest with-you if i were difficult child i wouldn't have engaged you via IM either. he knew that he would get yet another lecture about homework not done which would lead to arguments over other things. in a sense he was doing what we've recommended you do.....DETACH. it certainly didn't have the desired effect because it made you angry & hurt. .....and the cycle repeats....and repeats....and repeats. please see your primary care doctor & ask about medications & a referral to a local therapist. husband is not going to try to break this cycle....he's not in it. that means it's up to you to make some changes. right now the priority needs to be you....not difficult child. once you are in a better place then you can work on getting difficult child more stable. please, kjs, give it some serious thought. kris [/i] </span> </span> </span> [/QUOTE]
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