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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 610545" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome TearyEyed. I'm glad you found us and that you've experienced some solace here.</p><p></p><p>That is tough about your son and his recent experience. I'm sorry you are going through this. Making choices to detach from our kids is hard enough but when they act out and escalate as a result, it sure brings on the guilt. There is little you can do but continue on the road to detachment and acceptance. And, yes, it is hard.</p><p></p><p>You may want to read the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment. If you haven't already done so, you may want to get in touch with NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness which you can access on line. You may also find great value and tools and understanding by getting yourself professional support, a therapist or a therapist run parent group, a place YOU go to get the support most of us need in order to make the difficult choices we are forced in to making. </p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you, I do understand your fear and sadness and guilt, and I also know that with support and a focus on yourself, you can begin to feel some peace of mind, even in the midst of what feels like chaos and tragedy. I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. However, it is a choice you make, a choice for your own welfare, well being and happiness. It requires letting go and dealing with the powerlessness and loss of control we feel when we really get that we can't fix it for our kids. Your boy is still young and there may be more for you to do before you reach that point, I don't know.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it helps. Focus on you. Take care of you. Find support. Sending you wishes for peace..........glad you're here...........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 610545, member: 13542"] Welcome TearyEyed. I'm glad you found us and that you've experienced some solace here. That is tough about your son and his recent experience. I'm sorry you are going through this. Making choices to detach from our kids is hard enough but when they act out and escalate as a result, it sure brings on the guilt. There is little you can do but continue on the road to detachment and acceptance. And, yes, it is hard. You may want to read the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment. If you haven't already done so, you may want to get in touch with NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness which you can access on line. You may also find great value and tools and understanding by getting yourself professional support, a therapist or a therapist run parent group, a place YOU go to get the support most of us need in order to make the difficult choices we are forced in to making. My heart goes out to you, I do understand your fear and sadness and guilt, and I also know that with support and a focus on yourself, you can begin to feel some peace of mind, even in the midst of what feels like chaos and tragedy. I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. However, it is a choice you make, a choice for your own welfare, well being and happiness. It requires letting go and dealing with the powerlessness and loss of control we feel when we really get that we can't fix it for our kids. Your boy is still young and there may be more for you to do before you reach that point, I don't know. Keep posting, it helps. Focus on you. Take care of you. Find support. Sending you wishes for peace..........glad you're here........... [/QUOTE]
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