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<blockquote data-quote="'Chelle" data-source="post: 209892" data-attributes="member: 1161"><p>It's not the dollar value of the chocolate bar that is causing the anger. I think it's that fact that she invaded your personal space, violated the trust you placed in her leaving her alone in your place by snooping through your things, and then taking something that had a personal value to you beyond what it cost. It was a small thing given to you by your boyfriend that shows his love and caring for you. He thinks enough of you to know what you like and to actually bring some home for you. I bet you get even greater enjoyment when you have one just knowing he was thoughtful enough to bring them home specifically for you. To her it was probably just a candy worth less than a buck that you wouldn't miss, but to you it had personal significance and meaning. I have many little things/trinkets that aren't worth much, but were given to me by someone and mean something to me, breaks my heart when something happens to them. Even just a drawing done by a niece when she was 6 (very artistic girl) specifically for me.</p><p></p><p>I agree it's not childish to take something of hers in return. I think it is time to confront her with this, try get across to her how wrong it is, even from family it's stealing, and make her pay for things she takes. Even if the only way is to take something of hers, she needs to give payment for what she takes. My difficult child used to bug easy child by threatening to take/break things of hers, and I just told him that whatever he took, she would be allowed to go in his room and take ANYTHING she wanted in compensation. I think at that time he was threatening to pop a balloon she got somewhere (I think just to make her scream and yell), but I was fed up with the behavior. He said "but it's JUST a balloon" and I told him it doesn't matter, it's something that means a lot to her, and you'll have to give up whatever she wants to pay for it. Stopped most of that kind of thing right away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="'Chelle, post: 209892, member: 1161"] It's not the dollar value of the chocolate bar that is causing the anger. I think it's that fact that she invaded your personal space, violated the trust you placed in her leaving her alone in your place by snooping through your things, and then taking something that had a personal value to you beyond what it cost. It was a small thing given to you by your boyfriend that shows his love and caring for you. He thinks enough of you to know what you like and to actually bring some home for you. I bet you get even greater enjoyment when you have one just knowing he was thoughtful enough to bring them home specifically for you. To her it was probably just a candy worth less than a buck that you wouldn't miss, but to you it had personal significance and meaning. I have many little things/trinkets that aren't worth much, but were given to me by someone and mean something to me, breaks my heart when something happens to them. Even just a drawing done by a niece when she was 6 (very artistic girl) specifically for me. I agree it's not childish to take something of hers in return. I think it is time to confront her with this, try get across to her how wrong it is, even from family it's stealing, and make her pay for things she takes. Even if the only way is to take something of hers, she needs to give payment for what she takes. My difficult child used to bug easy child by threatening to take/break things of hers, and I just told him that whatever he took, she would be allowed to go in his room and take ANYTHING she wanted in compensation. I think at that time he was threatening to pop a balloon she got somewhere (I think just to make her scream and yell), but I was fed up with the behavior. He said "but it's JUST a balloon" and I told him it doesn't matter, it's something that means a lot to her, and you'll have to give up whatever she wants to pay for it. Stopped most of that kind of thing right away. [/QUOTE]
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