I met with difficult child last night -First of all I must say I was thankful before was I was angry - she went for her depo shot so yipee, no baby for a while again. She plans to go to the Dr soon to get help smoking which she started on Aug 11 when she left home, (I thought, more on this later) she had received her final paycheck from her resort job near home $500 for 8 days work, which was supposed to go for her rent $350 in 3 days, but instead she upgraded her computer and forgets where the rest went. She gets paid from her part time job on Sept. 7 and that won't be enough. She can't look for more work, because, well, school starts in 3 weeks and that won't work. So I got yelled again - in the cafe - about not helping her because I still "control" the joint account. It is all my fault that is in this situation and she would have kept her job at the resort but I wouldn't let her have a vehicle to make the 100 + mile trip each day - go figure... and she could not live at home because 'you and dad are impossible to live with." We parted under unhappy circumstances to say the least. On my drive home after my mammogram I got to thinking.... I want this to quit, so I tried and tried to phone, it takes a lot because although the cell phone is open and ready, she no longer answers my calls. Anyway, finally she did and I told her that I will use the money for Sept and Oct rent then its gone and its over and she has to sign a contract that it won't be my fault and that I will send it directly to the landlord because I don't want it used for cigarettes. So she started in on me about how i don't understand how hard it is to quit, etc etc. and I said No one is going to believe it is that hard to quit after 2 weeks, you'll just have to quit buying. Then she broke it to me that she has smoked continually while home, just not when we were around. And although that is not the worst thing in the world I am so angry that she has lied to us all this time, lied to us about where her money is going, not to mention the crankiness because we don't go out all that often and she probably wanted us to so that she could smoke. Also explains all the bathing at all times of the day and night. Combine that with the finding of a liquor bottle in her room in a house that NEVER had alcohol and I am just plain spitting mad about the whole thing. And for those of you who haven't read my previous posts, or kept track of the money this makes a grand whopping total of $1045 she has spent since August 11 and that total does not include the $270 of nsf cheques that are still out and about. I have a permanent job that doesn't pay that much in two week and I drive a new car !!!!