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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 311915" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Hello and welcome. I agree with the thoughts that others have voiced ... attachment issues would be very likely, almost inevitable, with a child who wasn't adopted until ten years of age. I really think the agencies should offer parental training AND ongoing therapy for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) whenever a family is willing to take in a child like this, because it's an extremely high-risk situation. That said, the time and love and stability you gave your child for those eight years are undoubtedly the best part of her life. You did all the right things, including standing firm on your house rules. Your stand will not have been lost on your younger daughter and that's also good. </p><p></p><p>As for family turning on you ... a lot of us have been there. My mother in law spent years telling my husband that our difficult child was perfectly fine and I was just a bad, abusive mother ... and other family distanced themselves and cut us off as difficult child's behaviors got worse. Even our church family turned their backs. The good thing about this board is that everyone here understands. We've all been through it and we don't judge. So, welcome, and I'm sorry you're going through this pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 311915, member: 2884"] Hello and welcome. I agree with the thoughts that others have voiced ... attachment issues would be very likely, almost inevitable, with a child who wasn't adopted until ten years of age. I really think the agencies should offer parental training AND ongoing therapy for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) whenever a family is willing to take in a child like this, because it's an extremely high-risk situation. That said, the time and love and stability you gave your child for those eight years are undoubtedly the best part of her life. You did all the right things, including standing firm on your house rules. Your stand will not have been lost on your younger daughter and that's also good. As for family turning on you ... a lot of us have been there. My mother in law spent years telling my husband that our difficult child was perfectly fine and I was just a bad, abusive mother ... and other family distanced themselves and cut us off as difficult child's behaviors got worse. Even our church family turned their backs. The good thing about this board is that everyone here understands. We've all been through it and we don't judge. So, welcome, and I'm sorry you're going through this pain. [/QUOTE]
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