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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 312984"><p>I'm so sorry.</p><p>Yes, we too have felt isolation, stigma and rejection as the result of our adopted child's behaviors and/or comments about our parenting. </p><p>Especially during the teen years, she had a habit of great exaggerating the truth or sometimes pure fiction was involved.</p><p>I have read that fantasy sometimes can be a part of bipolar illness...so there is always that small possibility.</p><p>It continues to baffle me how many adopting parents have gone thru hexx and back with these kids...many of whom are diagnosis'd ADHD (a documented higher incidence with- adopted children), but it seems that many are also receiving the bipolar illness diagnosis.</p><p>Attachment issues are always a possibility with adopted children, esp. those who were adopted when they are older.</p><p>Surely it requires a well trained/talented individual and family therapist to begin to unravel it all.</p><p>We didn't have much family to begin with and there were a few who were 'unsure' of us for a short time, but over the years noticing how hard we tried to help difficult child and the messes she herself got herself into, changed their minds.</p><p>in my humble opinion, if your friends and family turn on you and never concede, then I would just simply let it go. Don't worry in the least what they think.</p><p>Surely, there are a few folks in this world who know that you have tried your best.</p><p>Please keep the door open with your daughter, letting her know that you would always like to talk and that perhaps it would be best to get the help of a private counselor to work with- the family...tell her that their relationship is important to you and so you want the best advice all around.</p><p>It takes hard work to make a family function in harmony and let her know that you are willing to get the right advice and are willing to do the work and you hope she feels the same way.</p><p>In the mean time, as hard as it might seem, remember that you can only control YOU. So, do what you can to enjoy life...enjoy your spouse and your other child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 312984"] I'm so sorry. Yes, we too have felt isolation, stigma and rejection as the result of our adopted child's behaviors and/or comments about our parenting. Especially during the teen years, she had a habit of great exaggerating the truth or sometimes pure fiction was involved. I have read that fantasy sometimes can be a part of bipolar illness...so there is always that small possibility. It continues to baffle me how many adopting parents have gone thru hexx and back with these kids...many of whom are diagnosis'd ADHD (a documented higher incidence with- adopted children), but it seems that many are also receiving the bipolar illness diagnosis. Attachment issues are always a possibility with adopted children, esp. those who were adopted when they are older. Surely it requires a well trained/talented individual and family therapist to begin to unravel it all. We didn't have much family to begin with and there were a few who were 'unsure' of us for a short time, but over the years noticing how hard we tried to help difficult child and the messes she herself got herself into, changed their minds. in my humble opinion, if your friends and family turn on you and never concede, then I would just simply let it go. Don't worry in the least what they think. Surely, there are a few folks in this world who know that you have tried your best. Please keep the door open with your daughter, letting her know that you would always like to talk and that perhaps it would be best to get the help of a private counselor to work with- the family...tell her that their relationship is important to you and so you want the best advice all around. It takes hard work to make a family function in harmony and let her know that you are willing to get the right advice and are willing to do the work and you hope she feels the same way. In the mean time, as hard as it might seem, remember that you can only control YOU. So, do what you can to enjoy life...enjoy your spouse and your other child. [/QUOTE]
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