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I am so lost and heart broken... I called the Police on my 20 yr old today...
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 456827" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there and welcome to the board, although I'm sorry you have to join us.</p><p></p><p>You may want to post t his on the Parent Emeritus site because over there all of us have grown c hildren (over 18) and many have been exactly where you are right now. I am one of them. I had to turn in my daughter who was a serious drug abuser.</p><p></p><p>My opinion, based on raising a drug user who has quit now for eight years and who tells me a lot about drug users, is that her immediate problem is drug abuse. If you take too many tranquilizers, you can forget what you said. If you mix drugs with booze, it's even worse. I also know that she will not stop using drugs until she wants to, no matter what you do, although you can try. Putting an unmotivated person into rehab is not always successful, but one has to try.</p><p></p><p> I would not help her live her life while she is behaving in a criminal way. I wouldn't give her money or housing. And there is NO WAY I'd help her visit a friend in jail???? Nope. She wants to hang with lowlives, it would be without my help.</p><p></p><p>Has she always been unfeeling and uncaring? If this is new behavior, it is probably due to being drugged up. If she has always been this way, then perhaps she is antisocial, which is very hard to treat, but antisocial doesn't just pop up at age 18. There are always signs before that, lack of remorse, lack of normal empathy toward others. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you had to turn her in to try to save her. Go to Parent Emeritus and read the stories there. You'll find that you are NOT alone.</p><p></p><p>I highly recommend attending either Al-Anon or Narc-Anon groups for others who are in the same situation. It helps to be with people who understand and have the wisdom of experience.</p><p></p><p>Hugggggz. Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 456827, member: 1550"] Hi there and welcome to the board, although I'm sorry you have to join us. You may want to post t his on the Parent Emeritus site because over there all of us have grown c hildren (over 18) and many have been exactly where you are right now. I am one of them. I had to turn in my daughter who was a serious drug abuser. My opinion, based on raising a drug user who has quit now for eight years and who tells me a lot about drug users, is that her immediate problem is drug abuse. If you take too many tranquilizers, you can forget what you said. If you mix drugs with booze, it's even worse. I also know that she will not stop using drugs until she wants to, no matter what you do, although you can try. Putting an unmotivated person into rehab is not always successful, but one has to try. I would not help her live her life while she is behaving in a criminal way. I wouldn't give her money or housing. And there is NO WAY I'd help her visit a friend in jail???? Nope. She wants to hang with lowlives, it would be without my help. Has she always been unfeeling and uncaring? If this is new behavior, it is probably due to being drugged up. If she has always been this way, then perhaps she is antisocial, which is very hard to treat, but antisocial doesn't just pop up at age 18. There are always signs before that, lack of remorse, lack of normal empathy toward others. I am sorry you had to turn her in to try to save her. Go to Parent Emeritus and read the stories there. You'll find that you are NOT alone. I highly recommend attending either Al-Anon or Narc-Anon groups for others who are in the same situation. It helps to be with people who understand and have the wisdom of experience. Hugggggz. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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