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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 23533" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I hope difficult child was happy with himself too.</p><p></p><p>Some people don't understand this sort of pride. They follow austere principals, insist "pride goes before a fall," and "pride is a sin" and raise their kids accordingly. One family I know really worried me, with this attitude. At the school sports day families and parents go as well. Kids can run up to their parents and share successes or get reassured about less-than-successes. difficult child 3's godmother went down to watch him one day and was talking to other friends of ours from church, when their daughter came running up to them. "Mummy, I just came first in my race!"</p><p>While the mum hugged her daughter she didn't really say anything, and difficult child 3's godmother impulsively said, "Well done! You must be so proud of yourself!"</p><p>The mother glared at difficult child 3's godmother. The young girl smiled back then stared red-faced at her feet. The father took her aside and told her firmly to not interfere with the family's teaching that pride is a sin. difficult child 3's godmother was horrified at what this would be doing to the kids, to teach them that valuing yourself (as distinct from puffed up pride) is a bad thing.</p><p></p><p>So value your child. Teach them to value themselves. If you give praise don't overdo it or it will seem insincere, but really, we too often don't recognise it enough when our kids get it right.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 23533, member: 1991"] I hope difficult child was happy with himself too. Some people don't understand this sort of pride. They follow austere principals, insist "pride goes before a fall," and "pride is a sin" and raise their kids accordingly. One family I know really worried me, with this attitude. At the school sports day families and parents go as well. Kids can run up to their parents and share successes or get reassured about less-than-successes. difficult child 3's godmother went down to watch him one day and was talking to other friends of ours from church, when their daughter came running up to them. "Mummy, I just came first in my race!" While the mum hugged her daughter she didn't really say anything, and difficult child 3's godmother impulsively said, "Well done! You must be so proud of yourself!" The mother glared at difficult child 3's godmother. The young girl smiled back then stared red-faced at her feet. The father took her aside and told her firmly to not interfere with the family's teaching that pride is a sin. difficult child 3's godmother was horrified at what this would be doing to the kids, to teach them that valuing yourself (as distinct from puffed up pride) is a bad thing. So value your child. Teach them to value themselves. If you give praise don't overdo it or it will seem insincere, but really, we too often don't recognise it enough when our kids get it right. Marg [/QUOTE]
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