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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 297741" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Thank you, ladies.</p><p></p><p>I was quite overwhelmed last night.</p><p></p><p>difficult child did not go to the therapist appointment. I went alone. I was there for almost 2 hours. This therapist is priceless.</p><p></p><p>She says difficult child has severe Borderline (BPD) and traits of various other personality disorders, namely PPD. I don't like that one (tic) and suggested that depression can make one very paranoid, as I was extremely paranoid when I was severely depressed. She agreed, but read off the traits - hallmarks of the disorder. Then she read off the diagnostic criteria; 4 are needed for the diagnosis. She hit 4 criteria by the 4th criteria. Sigh.... It still could be depression, but it at least tells us about her thinking.</p><p></p><p>I have another appointment on Monday and therapist wants easy child and his girlfriend to come. I'm going to see if my mom can make it, too. easy child has to work and he's going to try to switch shifts with someone - he didn't seem to keen on doing that and I don't really blame him. He's had to deal with this enough. girlfriend is very keen on going, but I don't know if she has to work. They've both just started new jobs, so calling off really isn't an option.</p><p></p><p>therapist wants me to force difficult child to go to the appts. She said we may need to do an intervention. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> I covered my face with my hands and said, please tell me you're going to be there for that. She said definitely and if we have to we could do it at home. Did I mention, priceless? I don't know how I feel about the intervention. I told therapist that difficult child would "lose her mind" and therapist said, well then she would open the door for emergent intensive services. She feels the suicide ideation with difficult child is more of a manipulation tactic.</p><p></p><p>Want to hear about irony? difficult child says my (actually, ours as she means everyone) treatment of her borders on abuse. therapist got out a book about overindulgent parents. I have to admit, I have been overindulgent. It wasn't intentional. I think it was more taking the path of least resistance because I just haven't been able to deal with the behavior. Regardless, I am guilty of it.</p><p></p><p>So, today difficult child wants a new pair of pants and a new flat iron (these are for school). I told her she had to clean her room first then we would order them. She told me she needs help. I told her she's 14 years old, she made the mess, she can do it herself. She proceeded to argue a bit (she claims she wasn't arguing, just asking questions) and I told her that I wasn't going to help her. Normally, I would have. I don't do a lot, but I would have helped. I'm so proud of me for sticking to my guns. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> And guess what, she could do it all by herself. Shocking, I know. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>My muscles are still pretty tense, but not as bad as last night. And I'm trying not to think about it too much - as far as obsessing on it - because I feel like I can't breathe when I do. One day at a time.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for the support, good thoughts, hugs, prayers and strength. I don't know what I would do without you all.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 297741, member: 7083"] Thank you, ladies. I was quite overwhelmed last night. difficult child did not go to the therapist appointment. I went alone. I was there for almost 2 hours. This therapist is priceless. She says difficult child has severe Borderline (BPD) and traits of various other personality disorders, namely PPD. I don't like that one (tic) and suggested that depression can make one very paranoid, as I was extremely paranoid when I was severely depressed. She agreed, but read off the traits - hallmarks of the disorder. Then she read off the diagnostic criteria; 4 are needed for the diagnosis. She hit 4 criteria by the 4th criteria. Sigh.... It still could be depression, but it at least tells us about her thinking. I have another appointment on Monday and therapist wants easy child and his girlfriend to come. I'm going to see if my mom can make it, too. easy child has to work and he's going to try to switch shifts with someone - he didn't seem to keen on doing that and I don't really blame him. He's had to deal with this enough. girlfriend is very keen on going, but I don't know if she has to work. They've both just started new jobs, so calling off really isn't an option. therapist wants me to force difficult child to go to the appts. She said we may need to do an intervention. :surprise: I covered my face with my hands and said, please tell me you're going to be there for that. She said definitely and if we have to we could do it at home. Did I mention, priceless? I don't know how I feel about the intervention. I told therapist that difficult child would "lose her mind" and therapist said, well then she would open the door for emergent intensive services. She feels the suicide ideation with difficult child is more of a manipulation tactic. Want to hear about irony? difficult child says my (actually, ours as she means everyone) treatment of her borders on abuse. therapist got out a book about overindulgent parents. I have to admit, I have been overindulgent. It wasn't intentional. I think it was more taking the path of least resistance because I just haven't been able to deal with the behavior. Regardless, I am guilty of it. So, today difficult child wants a new pair of pants and a new flat iron (these are for school). I told her she had to clean her room first then we would order them. She told me she needs help. I told her she's 14 years old, she made the mess, she can do it herself. She proceeded to argue a bit (she claims she wasn't arguing, just asking questions) and I told her that I wasn't going to help her. Normally, I would have. I don't do a lot, but I would have helped. I'm so proud of me for sticking to my guns. :D And guess what, she could do it all by herself. Shocking, I know. :raspberry-tounge: My muscles are still pretty tense, but not as bad as last night. And I'm trying not to think about it too much - as far as obsessing on it - because I feel like I can't breathe when I do. One day at a time. Thank you for the support, good thoughts, hugs, prayers and strength. I don't know what I would do without you all. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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