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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 101545" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Beth,</p><p></p><p>Given your difficult children volatility; her lack of social skills & independent living skills, I'd jump on another year of Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Even if it means being the brunt of anger & such.</p><p></p><p>Remember, you don't always have to pick up the phone; in fact, there have been times that I've hung up on tweedles dee or dum, when they've called from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & were not so appropriate. I'd call the staff & let them know that kt or wm had their chance for the night & the phones were off until further notice.</p><p></p><p>And....your difficult child is an adult. She will have to learn these skills to be out in the real world. </p><p></p><p>What is Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/DHS doing to help her in the job market? Does she have a job coach? Have they started training her on true independent living skills...filling out a job application, filling out a rental agreement/lease, setting up & balancing a checkbook, budgeting, shopping for groceries.....? See where I'm going here? </p><p></p><p>The independent living skills staff for both kt & wm are already working on these skills (at a more age appropriate way - budgeting allowance is a good example) with the tweedles. I've been pushing this for a couple of years now, not knowing how/if either of them will be able to transition torward a more normal adult living situation.</p><p></p><p>Beth, turn the phone off. Communicate with staff via email. Set limits on when & when you won't accept phone calls. It's not unreasonable....in fact, given your situation I'd say it's exactly what you need. </p><p></p><p>I know from dealing with the 2 various/sundry treatment teams. </p><p></p><p>I believe when I was working I let the teams know that I was available the first 10 business days of the month by phone or for appointments. After that, just via email.</p><p></p><p>It worked wonderfully.</p><p></p><p>by the way, happy - maybe not so much. Relieved - maybe just a little. In the end, it really is getting your difficult child as many of the skills she needs to make it in the "real" world.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 101545, member: 393"] Beth, Given your difficult children volatility; her lack of social skills & independent living skills, I'd jump on another year of Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Even if it means being the brunt of anger & such. Remember, you don't always have to pick up the phone; in fact, there have been times that I've hung up on tweedles dee or dum, when they've called from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & were not so appropriate. I'd call the staff & let them know that kt or wm had their chance for the night & the phones were off until further notice. And....your difficult child is an adult. She will have to learn these skills to be out in the real world. What is Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/DHS doing to help her in the job market? Does she have a job coach? Have they started training her on true independent living skills...filling out a job application, filling out a rental agreement/lease, setting up & balancing a checkbook, budgeting, shopping for groceries.....? See where I'm going here? The independent living skills staff for both kt & wm are already working on these skills (at a more age appropriate way - budgeting allowance is a good example) with the tweedles. I've been pushing this for a couple of years now, not knowing how/if either of them will be able to transition torward a more normal adult living situation. Beth, turn the phone off. Communicate with staff via email. Set limits on when & when you won't accept phone calls. It's not unreasonable....in fact, given your situation I'd say it's exactly what you need. I know from dealing with the 2 various/sundry treatment teams. I believe when I was working I let the teams know that I was available the first 10 business days of the month by phone or for appointments. After that, just via email. It worked wonderfully. by the way, happy - maybe not so much. Relieved - maybe just a little. In the end, it really is getting your difficult child as many of the skills she needs to make it in the "real" world. (((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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