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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 606900" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>typical teen, I am very sorry you are going through this with both of your adult kids. It is a very painful place to be. I understand.</p><p></p><p>At this point, in my experience, all you can do is detach and take care of yourself now. You may want to read the article at the bottom of my post here. Your children have made their choices and even though your grandchildren are not available to you right now, you are powerless to do anything about that. Realizing that powerlessness is very difficult but it also holds the possibility to get you out from under trying to control what you have no control over.</p><p></p><p>My best advice to you would be to find a good therapist, go to 12 step groups, (codependency or al anon whichever you believe is appropriate for you), or any kind of support that is just for YOU. The focus on our kids becomes like an addiction in and of itself and at some point we need to focus on our own needs and desires. It's a process, it takes time, but it becomes necessary for our own health and well being.</p><p></p><p>Take care of YOU now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 606900, member: 13542"] typical teen, I am very sorry you are going through this with both of your adult kids. It is a very painful place to be. I understand. At this point, in my experience, all you can do is detach and take care of yourself now. You may want to read the article at the bottom of my post here. Your children have made their choices and even though your grandchildren are not available to you right now, you are powerless to do anything about that. Realizing that powerlessness is very difficult but it also holds the possibility to get you out from under trying to control what you have no control over. My best advice to you would be to find a good therapist, go to 12 step groups, (codependency or al anon whichever you believe is appropriate for you), or any kind of support that is just for YOU. The focus on our kids becomes like an addiction in and of itself and at some point we need to focus on our own needs and desires. It's a process, it takes time, but it becomes necessary for our own health and well being. Take care of YOU now. [/QUOTE]
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