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<blockquote data-quote="Babbs" data-source="post: 298032" data-attributes="member: 3820"><p>I started a token economy with difficult child about 2 and a half years ago and give him a flat rate allowance no matter what his behavior is. The tokens are for doing chores, following directions, etc. It's nice to have something I can surprise him with when he comes when I call him and he doesn't give me grief! The tokens are turned in for his three favorite things - TV time, computer time, and Wii time. No tokens? No Wii, no computer, no TV, no exceptions. Most of his chores I've set up to be done before mine - e.g. he has to empty the dishwasher when he gets home from school. He doesn't do it? No tokens, but then mom doesn't cook dinner and he goes hungry until he gets the chore done. It's still a struggle (I can remember it taking a hour for him to empty the danged thing), but setting up natural consequences for not doing it and highly desired rewards for doing it has made a world of difference.</p><p></p><p>I decided a long time ago to give difficult child a flat allowance so that he can have some money to learn money management. If it was always going to be taken away or docked then he would never have money in order to learn how to save it etc. And if he breaks something he has to purchase the replacement before he can buy anything else at the store. E.g. he broke a hinge on a cupboard door before summer visitation so his first allowance he will have to purchase the replacement. It also helps me from the whiny gimmes in the grocery store - no wallet, no money, not my problem...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Babbs, post: 298032, member: 3820"] I started a token economy with difficult child about 2 and a half years ago and give him a flat rate allowance no matter what his behavior is. The tokens are for doing chores, following directions, etc. It's nice to have something I can surprise him with when he comes when I call him and he doesn't give me grief! The tokens are turned in for his three favorite things - TV time, computer time, and Wii time. No tokens? No Wii, no computer, no TV, no exceptions. Most of his chores I've set up to be done before mine - e.g. he has to empty the dishwasher when he gets home from school. He doesn't do it? No tokens, but then mom doesn't cook dinner and he goes hungry until he gets the chore done. It's still a struggle (I can remember it taking a hour for him to empty the danged thing), but setting up natural consequences for not doing it and highly desired rewards for doing it has made a world of difference. I decided a long time ago to give difficult child a flat allowance so that he can have some money to learn money management. If it was always going to be taken away or docked then he would never have money in order to learn how to save it etc. And if he breaks something he has to purchase the replacement before he can buy anything else at the store. E.g. he broke a hinge on a cupboard door before summer visitation so his first allowance he will have to purchase the replacement. It also helps me from the whiny gimmes in the grocery store - no wallet, no money, not my problem... [/QUOTE]
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