Particularly chores. An example of his weekly chores: clean bathroom (monday), Vacuum living room floor & take out garbage (tuesday)...you get the idea, Im not asking him to do some huge task. Everything he does is half ____ done. I am so sick of it. He gets an allowance and when I have refused to give it to him because he does such a poor job, he says fine, I don't need an allowance anyway. Then 2 days later he comes to me begging for a dollar to go get a coke with. The biggest thing right now is he talked me into getting him a chinchilla last year. Well, he lies to me about having cleaned his cage and watering and feeding him. I know he lies, so I go behind him and get so mad..I confront him, he looks me right in the eye and tells me he DID clean this cage that stinks to high heaven & has droppings everywhere. SO...I end up getting furious and telling him to just leave and I will do it myself. Im afraid the animal will die if it is not done properly and also it will stink up the house. Well, chinchillas live a very long time (10+ years)...can I do this for the next 10 years?!? no way! So I told him I will work on finding him a good home. difficult child didn't even blink. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. How did I raise such a self centered person? Oh and difficult child had a sleepover here last night. The last few ones have been really bad, one time the military police knocked on my door at 3 am and had brought home difficult child and his friends (they are 11 remember), they were out roaming the neighborhood in search of frogs...or so they say. That was months ago, so I gave him another chance last night. I made them pick out a few snacks before I went to bed, in hopes that my clean kitchen would still be clean in the morning. And I told them they had to go to bed by 2 am. I get up this morning to find an assortment of food, chocolate milk all over the counter and then they slip to me that they didn't go to sleep until 5 AM. I confront difficult child after his friend goes home. He blames everything on his friend. Then I said well he is very disrespectful and rude, and I don't think he needs to come over anymore. difficult child got a shocked look on his face. I KNOW he will hit me up for another sleepover soon. Ok thanks for listening to my rambling. If anyone has any suggestions about the chores, the not following rules, all of it....I will be very appreciative.