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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 451684" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>OK, here's me and my "out on a limb" theories again, but... maybe??</p><p></p><p>Anything on the Autism spectrum covers a broad range of developmental disorders. That includes Developmental Dyspraxia or Developmental Coordination Disorder. Think "motor skills" - which split into fine, and gross. Now, some of these kids (with or without Autism, but having the motor skills issues) are obviously having problems with motor skills. They just can't do it. THIS, most of us relate to (parents, teachers, doctors).</p><p></p><p>BUT new evidence is growing that some of these kids "can" do it... but it comes at such an expense of mental effort that they take any chance they can to avoid it. At home = automatically seek help, avoid spending that energy. Elsewhere = the need to "save face" is greater than the need to "conserve energy", so they put the effort in when not at home. And/or, they put in so much effort doing this stuff when not at home that when they get back home, WE get stuck with the rages etc. from the burnout, even if we don't know what causes the burnout in the first place.</p><p></p><p>In other words, he may in fact have problems dressing, but its subtle.</p><p></p><p>What are you expecting him to wear? buttons, zippers, fairly-snug t-shirts, socks, tie-up shoes? Any of those are major coordination challenges.</p><p>Let me know what he's using for a wardrobe, and I can give you some ideas of ways to adjust to make it easier for him. </p><p>Might be worth a try.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 451684, member: 11791"] OK, here's me and my "out on a limb" theories again, but... maybe?? Anything on the Autism spectrum covers a broad range of developmental disorders. That includes Developmental Dyspraxia or Developmental Coordination Disorder. Think "motor skills" - which split into fine, and gross. Now, some of these kids (with or without Autism, but having the motor skills issues) are obviously having problems with motor skills. They just can't do it. THIS, most of us relate to (parents, teachers, doctors). BUT new evidence is growing that some of these kids "can" do it... but it comes at such an expense of mental effort that they take any chance they can to avoid it. At home = automatically seek help, avoid spending that energy. Elsewhere = the need to "save face" is greater than the need to "conserve energy", so they put the effort in when not at home. And/or, they put in so much effort doing this stuff when not at home that when they get back home, WE get stuck with the rages etc. from the burnout, even if we don't know what causes the burnout in the first place. In other words, he may in fact have problems dressing, but its subtle. What are you expecting him to wear? buttons, zippers, fairly-snug t-shirts, socks, tie-up shoes? Any of those are major coordination challenges. Let me know what he's using for a wardrobe, and I can give you some ideas of ways to adjust to make it easier for him. Might be worth a try. [/QUOTE]
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