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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 451715" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Since he seems to eventually always dress himself, I think this is your best plan of attack. He may feel (in his own Aspie logic) that there really is no reason to get dressed until right before leaving the house. You might even want to change the house rule to no breakfast until you are fully dressed which can apply to everyone in the family. When we're rushed for time there are usually 2 things that need to get done. Brush hair (I still have to do this for my 10 y/o because she gets wicked tangles) and eat. Of course, the girls want to eat first, but I insist we do hair first because 1 It MUST be done, and 2 I can't do that while I'm driving, BUT if absolutely necessary, food can be taken and eaten in the car.</p><p></p><p>Following the same concept, I had to redefine what "done" meant for son as far as homework goes. His logic was if he finished the work, he was done. He could always print it out and pack it in his backpack the next morning - makes sense this didn't HAVE to get done until right before leaving the house. Well, Aspie brain would always forget to print out and pack the homework. So, now homework isn't done until the work is finished AND it is printed out AND it is in the backpack. Then it is done and he can resume his activities.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion he needs an "Aspie logical" reason to get dressed when you want him to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 451715, member: 11965"] Since he seems to eventually always dress himself, I think this is your best plan of attack. He may feel (in his own Aspie logic) that there really is no reason to get dressed until right before leaving the house. You might even want to change the house rule to no breakfast until you are fully dressed which can apply to everyone in the family. When we're rushed for time there are usually 2 things that need to get done. Brush hair (I still have to do this for my 10 y/o because she gets wicked tangles) and eat. Of course, the girls want to eat first, but I insist we do hair first because 1 It MUST be done, and 2 I can't do that while I'm driving, BUT if absolutely necessary, food can be taken and eaten in the car. Following the same concept, I had to redefine what "done" meant for son as far as homework goes. His logic was if he finished the work, he was done. He could always print it out and pack it in his backpack the next morning - makes sense this didn't HAVE to get done until right before leaving the house. Well, Aspie brain would always forget to print out and pack the homework. So, now homework isn't done until the work is finished AND it is printed out AND it is in the backpack. Then it is done and he can resume his activities. in my opinion he needs an "Aspie logical" reason to get dressed when you want him to. [/QUOTE]
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