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<blockquote data-quote="Megandrudy" data-source="post: 710235" data-attributes="member: 21521"><p>Thank you all for your responses. Unfortunately, I have let her know, on several occasions, how much I am hurting. I left a note on her car yesterday and got no response. I cried all last night and on and off today. As my husband and I laid in bed last night, I was sobbing. He finally turned his head toward me and said, "you're not the only one in pain here." His eyes were filled with tears. In 35 years of marriage I have rarely seen my husband cry. I wished right then that our daughter could see her father. She has blamed him for being too negative and refused to ever acknowledge the "small acts" of love that he frequently displayed for her. She did question me once about why I expected her to be perfect. I said I don't expect her to be perfect, but due to the fact that I am a teacher, I can't sit across the table from a parent and tell them how to raise their child, if I don't do the same. There is baggage from her birth family. Her birth mother committed suicide on the last day of school during her eighth grade year. She never met her birth mother, but BM tried to contact her through the internet. Our daughter had just made contact with her birth siblings and was not ready for more. Shortly after our daughter turned her away, the mother committed suicide. Our daughter blamed herself for the BM's death. We reassured her that she did not cause the BM to do what she did. </p><p>Right before our daughter graduated from HS, she informed us that she had invited her bio brothers to her graduation. She met her oldest brother once (we were with her) and had never met the middle brother until he showed up at our house for the graduation. They informed us that the bio grandmother passed away the night before and the family wanted her to go to the funeral. I tried to discourage her from going, saying that the funeral should be about the grandmother and it would be all about our daughter instead....pointing, whispering , etc. She insisted that she wanted to go, so I took her. What I predicted would happen, did. It was very awkward at best. Things happened and things were said that sent me over the edge and made me feel like we were going to lose her. She came home with us but then we got into s huge fight regarding the boyfriend, a planned camping trip with us, and the cell phone. It went down hill from there. She actually talked to us more right after she left than she is now. I have heard she has broken up with the boyfriend, but continues to live there with his parents. I think he still lives there too. I am a mess.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Megandrudy, post: 710235, member: 21521"] Thank you all for your responses. Unfortunately, I have let her know, on several occasions, how much I am hurting. I left a note on her car yesterday and got no response. I cried all last night and on and off today. As my husband and I laid in bed last night, I was sobbing. He finally turned his head toward me and said, "you're not the only one in pain here." His eyes were filled with tears. In 35 years of marriage I have rarely seen my husband cry. I wished right then that our daughter could see her father. She has blamed him for being too negative and refused to ever acknowledge the "small acts" of love that he frequently displayed for her. She did question me once about why I expected her to be perfect. I said I don't expect her to be perfect, but due to the fact that I am a teacher, I can't sit across the table from a parent and tell them how to raise their child, if I don't do the same. There is baggage from her birth family. Her birth mother committed suicide on the last day of school during her eighth grade year. She never met her birth mother, but BM tried to contact her through the internet. Our daughter had just made contact with her birth siblings and was not ready for more. Shortly after our daughter turned her away, the mother committed suicide. Our daughter blamed herself for the BM's death. We reassured her that she did not cause the BM to do what she did. Right before our daughter graduated from HS, she informed us that she had invited her bio brothers to her graduation. She met her oldest brother once (we were with her) and had never met the middle brother until he showed up at our house for the graduation. They informed us that the bio grandmother passed away the night before and the family wanted her to go to the funeral. I tried to discourage her from going, saying that the funeral should be about the grandmother and it would be all about our daughter instead....pointing, whispering , etc. She insisted that she wanted to go, so I took her. What I predicted would happen, did. It was very awkward at best. Things happened and things were said that sent me over the edge and made me feel like we were going to lose her. She came home with us but then we got into s huge fight regarding the boyfriend, a planned camping trip with us, and the cell phone. It went down hill from there. She actually talked to us more right after she left than she is now. I have heard she has broken up with the boyfriend, but continues to live there with his parents. I think he still lives there too. I am a mess..... [/QUOTE]
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