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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 710255" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>Meg, I think Copa put into words what I was thinking. This isn't about you and Rudy. It's about her birth mother. That's why she needs space from you. She is trying to grapple with the ultimate rejection. My husband's suicide is still hard for me to cope with. I <strong>know</strong> he was ill. I <strong>know</strong> that I tried to help him. It still <strong>feels</strong> like the ultimate betrayal. </p><p></p><p>The timing of the birth mother's death was horrible. It dumped an emotional load on your daughter which she believes you don't understand. Sorry, Copa, I don't believe suicides are criminal. I think we need to understand that sometimes people become so ill that they cannot cope with life. It isn't about those that they love and leave behind. It's solely about their emotional pain reaching a level that they can no longer handle. I don't believe birth mother was trying to destroy the world of the daughter she gave up for adoption. I do understand that she has left a path of emotional destruction in the wake of her death. Suicides have that effect on those left behind. </p><p></p><p>She will come back to you, Meg. She is hurting deeply. I agree with Copa that she only needs space in order to process this loss. I'm sorry that her need for space is painful for you. I, too, believe that she will return to you and Rudy. I think the love all of you share will be strong enough to overcome this terrible pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 710255, member: 11832"] Meg, I think Copa put into words what I was thinking. This isn't about you and Rudy. It's about her birth mother. That's why she needs space from you. She is trying to grapple with the ultimate rejection. My husband's suicide is still hard for me to cope with. I [B]know[/B] he was ill. I [B]know[/B] that I tried to help him. It still [B]feels[/B] like the ultimate betrayal. The timing of the birth mother's death was horrible. It dumped an emotional load on your daughter which she believes you don't understand. Sorry, Copa, I don't believe suicides are criminal. I think we need to understand that sometimes people become so ill that they cannot cope with life. It isn't about those that they love and leave behind. It's solely about their emotional pain reaching a level that they can no longer handle. I don't believe birth mother was trying to destroy the world of the daughter she gave up for adoption. I do understand that she has left a path of emotional destruction in the wake of her death. Suicides have that effect on those left behind. She will come back to you, Meg. She is hurting deeply. I agree with Copa that she only needs space in order to process this loss. I'm sorry that her need for space is painful for you. I, too, believe that she will return to you and Rudy. I think the love all of you share will be strong enough to overcome this terrible pain. [/QUOTE]
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