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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 320416" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>You bring up a good point, EB, for anyone foreseeing a 911 call pertaining to their difficult child's behavior. I have called cops many times on my son- some resulted in a stern talk and warning, some an arrest, and some a tdo. Here, it is up to the officer and his/her sargent (who they will call in to) or the mental health crisis center, but they do put a lot of weight on what the parent says. The first time difficult child hit me I called cops because difficult child had "disappeared" and I was really calling them to find difficult child and bring him home. They did but they also arrested him for assaulting me even though I did NOT want to press charges (that's a story in itself).</p><p></p><p>Anyway, that's why I strongly suggest that if you have a difficult child that needs more than just a legal, behavioral intervention, that when the parent calls 911, they immediately tell them that you have a MI child who is unstable and needs an evaluation for a tdo. Plus, if the difficult child has become violent, that means the difference between them coming in the home with 9mm's or tasers, here at least. But in many jurisdictions, cops are now being trained to deal with calls for MI incidences differently than criminal ones, so it is important to keep those things in mind when contemplating a future 911 call. The initial words said by the parent can make all the difference in the world, even if it is the cops choice whether or not to arrest the difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Also, when I called cops on difficult child pulling a knife out on me, the cops looked all around the house, asked questions, etc, to try to make sure that my son was not being abused, neglected, or somehow was warranted in doing that. Not that anyone here would abuse their child, but be prepared for them to check out things to make sure the child was not mistreated if you call to report your difficult child becoming violent or aggressive toward a parent. And if it ends up in court, the typical defense for the child is that they were driven to it, unfortunately. That sounds absurd, I know, but look at most domestic violence cases- the defense is what the victim did to bring it on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 320416, member: 3699"] You bring up a good point, EB, for anyone foreseeing a 911 call pertaining to their difficult child's behavior. I have called cops many times on my son- some resulted in a stern talk and warning, some an arrest, and some a tdo. Here, it is up to the officer and his/her sargent (who they will call in to) or the mental health crisis center, but they do put a lot of weight on what the parent says. The first time difficult child hit me I called cops because difficult child had "disappeared" and I was really calling them to find difficult child and bring him home. They did but they also arrested him for assaulting me even though I did NOT want to press charges (that's a story in itself). Anyway, that's why I strongly suggest that if you have a difficult child that needs more than just a legal, behavioral intervention, that when the parent calls 911, they immediately tell them that you have a MI child who is unstable and needs an evaluation for a tdo. Plus, if the difficult child has become violent, that means the difference between them coming in the home with 9mm's or tasers, here at least. But in many jurisdictions, cops are now being trained to deal with calls for MI incidences differently than criminal ones, so it is important to keep those things in mind when contemplating a future 911 call. The initial words said by the parent can make all the difference in the world, even if it is the cops choice whether or not to arrest the difficult child. Also, when I called cops on difficult child pulling a knife out on me, the cops looked all around the house, asked questions, etc, to try to make sure that my son was not being abused, neglected, or somehow was warranted in doing that. Not that anyone here would abuse their child, but be prepared for them to check out things to make sure the child was not mistreated if you call to report your difficult child becoming violent or aggressive toward a parent. And if it ends up in court, the typical defense for the child is that they were driven to it, unfortunately. That sounds absurd, I know, but look at most domestic violence cases- the defense is what the victim did to bring it on. [/QUOTE]
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