Momma, I am glad for her and for you. She is lucky to have a mother who is able to, in the midst of the chaos and uncertainty, look to her strengths and her potential and to celebrate that. I really do applaud you. That takes great strength and character.
I am concerned about what you write about your marriage. While I understand that this is not a "relationships" forum, whether or not our relationships survive is surely a very important factor, in our stability and well-being and that of our children.
Are you willing to post about this, what you see as your choices?
