My husband is an odd breed of man. He is very old fashioned in his belief that the wife raises the kids and tends to the home while he is the majority of financial stability. It's how he is, I can't change it. He has been in a depression for several months and I honestly think that is what lead to him confiding in her which lead to emotional attachment. I must give her credit in that at times she did defend me to him, I saw it with my own eyes. He at my request has ended their "friendship" and I feel badly for her because in the process she got her feelings hurt. I do not feel sorry for myself because I made my decision to stay with him and try to make my marriage good. If it doesn't work and I end up hurt then it's on me.
My daughter is mentally mature beyond her years. She sees that the life she desperately wants will not happen unless she puts in the effort to understand herself and how to handle what life has given her. I have raised her to know life is not going to be easy and if you want something it will not be handed to you. I have raised her to work on being a better version of herself than she was yesterday. I am constantly working on me and she sees it. I am willing to admit mistakes and take the responsibility for my errors and learn from it. I am willing to apologize, and willing to listen to others opinions and seriously consider them and change mine if needed. I may not be great at a lot of things, but dammit, I do believe I am raising my kids to be responsible for themselves and their actions; to realize that while they may have bipolar or adhd or a learning disability those are not excuses for not putting in hard work to overcome the obstacles placed in our lives and be successful adults and human beings.
