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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 153865" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>I won't be answering my phone, at least if it is difficult child!</p><p></p><p>I have to tell you that in Texas there are <strong>NO</strong> grandparent rights. We talked to an attorney last year. So that is out.</p><p></p><p>When we were in court, I specifically asked the judge for visitation with our grandson and he said that I would have to "share" time with my difficult child when she got her visitation. That would have worked if I had not shared my honest feelings and thoughts with my difficult child. It won't work now though.</p><p></p><p>I have considered writing the judge, but do I REALLY want to open more cans of worms and add more fuel to the fire? I don't think I should. That would actually give my difficult child more reason to hate me. If I just step back and keep quiet, they will either lose their parental rights <strong>on their own merits or lack there of</strong> or they will get their children back on their own doings in which case, we still wouldn't get to see him because of my "honesty".</p><p></p><p>There is supposed to be a family meeting for anyone that has interest in the welfare of both children and the bio parents,to sit around with a facilitator and discuss what positive steps need to be accomplished by the bio parents. This will become part of the their case plan. I was previously welcomed, before I was "honest". I doubt that I still am. That doesn't mean that I still couldn't attend, but now I don't know if I should.</p><p></p><p>My point in ALL of this is not and has not been to create problems for anyone. I don't need to take revenge, I am not that kind of a person. My difficult child and her sons father, "know not what they have done". They truly don't. My interest has been the wellbeing of our grandson. </p><p></p><p>I would LOVE to see him, I would LOVE to be a part of his life FOREVER, but I am afraid that I have done all that I could and that I just HAVE to have confidence that CPS will make fair, safe and healthy choices for him. I actually cringed writing that, because I know it's not necessarily true. They are too big of a bureaucracy to get things right. I have witnessed and experienced it myself. This is the part that kills me the most! He loves my whole family so much and has done so very well when he is here. He is a different child, still honery and hyper and still doesn't sleep, but we don't have all the problems with him that everyone else does. He certainly doesn't poop and pee everywhere. My little grandson just looks into my eyes with so much love and happiness when he wraps those long, skinny arms around my neck to kiss my cheek. I love that little guy!</p><p></p><p>I will always keep my eyes and ears open and I'll keep talking to people and I'll keep my "thinking cap" on. You never know what could happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 153865, member: 30"] I won't be answering my phone, at least if it is difficult child! I have to tell you that in Texas there are [B]NO[/B] grandparent rights. We talked to an attorney last year. So that is out. When we were in court, I specifically asked the judge for visitation with our grandson and he said that I would have to "share" time with my difficult child when she got her visitation. That would have worked if I had not shared my honest feelings and thoughts with my difficult child. It won't work now though. I have considered writing the judge, but do I REALLY want to open more cans of worms and add more fuel to the fire? I don't think I should. That would actually give my difficult child more reason to hate me. If I just step back and keep quiet, they will either lose their parental rights [B]on their own merits or lack there of[/B] or they will get their children back on their own doings in which case, we still wouldn't get to see him because of my "honesty". There is supposed to be a family meeting for anyone that has interest in the welfare of both children and the bio parents,to sit around with a facilitator and discuss what positive steps need to be accomplished by the bio parents. This will become part of the their case plan. I was previously welcomed, before I was "honest". I doubt that I still am. That doesn't mean that I still couldn't attend, but now I don't know if I should. My point in ALL of this is not and has not been to create problems for anyone. I don't need to take revenge, I am not that kind of a person. My difficult child and her sons father, "know not what they have done". They truly don't. My interest has been the wellbeing of our grandson. I would LOVE to see him, I would LOVE to be a part of his life FOREVER, but I am afraid that I have done all that I could and that I just HAVE to have confidence that CPS will make fair, safe and healthy choices for him. I actually cringed writing that, because I know it's not necessarily true. They are too big of a bureaucracy to get things right. I have witnessed and experienced it myself. This is the part that kills me the most! He loves my whole family so much and has done so very well when he is here. He is a different child, still honery and hyper and still doesn't sleep, but we don't have all the problems with him that everyone else does. He certainly doesn't poop and pee everywhere. My little grandson just looks into my eyes with so much love and happiness when he wraps those long, skinny arms around my neck to kiss my cheek. I love that little guy! I will always keep my eyes and ears open and I'll keep talking to people and I'll keep my "thinking cap" on. You never know what could happen. [/QUOTE]
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