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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 295325" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Reading your post reminds me of what my Mom has been going through these past two years. Her husband, my stepfather, died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 50. He was 13 years younger than my Mom and she always thought he would out live her. </p><p> </p><p>So many shoulda, woulda, couldas. My Mom had really been taking care of herself the two years before he died and she encouraged him to join her on her walks and other exercise outings. He flat refused and my Mom didn't push it (now, she wished she had). Plus, his drinking had really increased those last couple of years and my Mom didn't make a big deal out of it (now she wished she had). </p><p> </p><p>She had also saw signs that he was using tobacco again (after quitting years before) but he vehimently denied it and she didn't push it ( now she wished she had). Yet, he was a grown man and made his own decisions. He even tried to make him go to the hospital earlier the night be died, but he flat refused to go until it was too late. </p><p> </p><p>When she was ready to sort through his things, she found a lot of evidence that he was smoking cigarettes and even using pot again. She was furious with him! I mean raging angry calling him all kinds of profanity because she felt like he chose them over her. Yet, he obviously had demons he was fighting and chose how he was going to fight them. </p><p> </p><p>It has been a helva adjustment for her these past two years. She's never lived alone before. She's never had to hire someone to fix anything because my stepfather fixed everything. She's misses cooking for him and just having him sit in his chair watching TV. </p><p> </p><p>She doesn't have the tweedles, but she does help me with Son a lot. She gets angry with him sometimes because of all of the stress he puts me through. She is very close with him, and tries to give me a break from him whenever she can. Even if it just taking him to the supermarket with her. </p><p> </p><p>I guess other than this all I can offer is (((gentle hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 295325, member: 831"] Reading your post reminds me of what my Mom has been going through these past two years. Her husband, my stepfather, died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 50. He was 13 years younger than my Mom and she always thought he would out live her. So many shoulda, woulda, couldas. My Mom had really been taking care of herself the two years before he died and she encouraged him to join her on her walks and other exercise outings. He flat refused and my Mom didn't push it (now, she wished she had). Plus, his drinking had really increased those last couple of years and my Mom didn't make a big deal out of it (now she wished she had). She had also saw signs that he was using tobacco again (after quitting years before) but he vehimently denied it and she didn't push it ( now she wished she had). Yet, he was a grown man and made his own decisions. He even tried to make him go to the hospital earlier the night be died, but he flat refused to go until it was too late. When she was ready to sort through his things, she found a lot of evidence that he was smoking cigarettes and even using pot again. She was furious with him! I mean raging angry calling him all kinds of profanity because she felt like he chose them over her. Yet, he obviously had demons he was fighting and chose how he was going to fight them. It has been a helva adjustment for her these past two years. She's never lived alone before. She's never had to hire someone to fix anything because my stepfather fixed everything. She's misses cooking for him and just having him sit in his chair watching TV. She doesn't have the tweedles, but she does help me with Son a lot. She gets angry with him sometimes because of all of the stress he puts me through. She is very close with him, and tries to give me a break from him whenever she can. Even if it just taking him to the supermarket with her. I guess other than this all I can offer is (((gentle hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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