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I didn't know that sadness, grief
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 295350" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Linda, just sending hugs your way & prayers. You know how hard it was on me to lose my sister last year - and I have to frankly say that there are still days I break down and cry. Today, someone was talking about a funeral, and I got tears in my eyes. I know I have moved on to the best of my soul's ability, yet I still find myself talking to my friends as if she was still alive. My sister this, H. that.........she is still alive to me...........her memory is still very much present and a part of my every day life.</p><p></p><p>I am not sure the pain really ever gets less - our soul just seems to callous itself to it. There were weeks where I never thought I would get to the other side of this grief - and then there were weeks where I blocked it completely. </p><p></p><p>Like you there were so many what if, and whys.........most of which are still unanswered. I went on a little binge where I was going to solve the mystery of her death - and bring the secrets to light. And then I realized, she would still be gone. And that crusade was only going to distract me from coping with the fact she was still gone, forever. The forever is the hardest fact to cope with, still. So I chose to talk to her whenever I feel that deep disconnect. I just chat with her, as if she is still here. It helps.</p><p></p><p>Anyway - I am just babbling about my own story so that you know you are not alone. A husband is an even deeper pain. The book Toto mentioned is supposed to be the best book out there for someone who just lost someone, so you might read that. I have not read it - because frankly - I am not sure if I can right now. I need this time in my life to distance myself a little from the pain, and work is serving as a great distraction. There will be a time, however, that I need to heal some more - and I will know the time is right to read it. I have it sitting on my bookshelf, just waiting.</p><p></p><p>Anyway - I am praying and sending you strength. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 295350, member: 3301"] Linda, just sending hugs your way & prayers. You know how hard it was on me to lose my sister last year - and I have to frankly say that there are still days I break down and cry. Today, someone was talking about a funeral, and I got tears in my eyes. I know I have moved on to the best of my soul's ability, yet I still find myself talking to my friends as if she was still alive. My sister this, H. that.........she is still alive to me...........her memory is still very much present and a part of my every day life. I am not sure the pain really ever gets less - our soul just seems to callous itself to it. There were weeks where I never thought I would get to the other side of this grief - and then there were weeks where I blocked it completely. Like you there were so many what if, and whys.........most of which are still unanswered. I went on a little binge where I was going to solve the mystery of her death - and bring the secrets to light. And then I realized, she would still be gone. And that crusade was only going to distract me from coping with the fact she was still gone, forever. The forever is the hardest fact to cope with, still. So I chose to talk to her whenever I feel that deep disconnect. I just chat with her, as if she is still here. It helps. Anyway - I am just babbling about my own story so that you know you are not alone. A husband is an even deeper pain. The book Toto mentioned is supposed to be the best book out there for someone who just lost someone, so you might read that. I have not read it - because frankly - I am not sure if I can right now. I need this time in my life to distance myself a little from the pain, and work is serving as a great distraction. There will be a time, however, that I need to heal some more - and I will know the time is right to read it. I have it sitting on my bookshelf, just waiting. Anyway - I am praying and sending you strength. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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