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I dont know if I have updated on difficult child and his docs
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 605950" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am glad the medical info helped. It would be a good idea for you to go to his ortho appts with him if at all possible. I know you have been sick and that it is hard to travel, but having someone there really is helpful for both doctor and patient. This is esp true on a long term problem that started in childhood. You know the answers to questions that no one else does because you are The Mom. </p><p></p><p>There is something called Emotional Intelligence and it can drop suddenly when we are under stress. Studies show that this can be more important than your IQ when you are in stressful situations, esp those with a short time and a lot of info to impart and receive. This is why MANY people do not use medications or other medical items/instructions appropriately. They are so stressed that they truly do not understand or remember what the doctor said or what they said to the doctor. Having someone with you to take notes during the appointment, even if this person never says a single word or makes a sound, drastically improves the quality and appropriateness of your medical care and in how you communicate with the doctor. Having your mom or someone who is familiar iwth your medical history, current problems, and other critical info about your life and lifestyle increases the success of your care immensely. It has been years since I saw studies on this, but the increase was truly impressive. </p><p></p><p>If you are able to go and Youngest is willing, it would likely be very helpful to the doctor and to Youngest as they go about helping him through this. If he won't let anyone go into the exam room with him, please have him record the appointment on his phone or whatever voice recorder you can find. It will help him gain as much function and freedom from pain as is possible.</p><p></p><p>Be aware that tobacco use increases the amt of time it takes bone to heal. Any surgery on bones will likely heal at the slow end of the recovery range and NOT the fast end. I have had 2 surgeons who refused to do spinal surgery on smokers due to this. It is becoming more and more common for docs to be less willing to operate on smokers who refuse to even try to quit during the period before and during the healing process, at least here and where we used to live. </p><p></p><p>I would stay away from his pain doctor appts, or at least don't go in with him if you think it will cause problems. Your pain clinic is scary to me, but it is what is available. At least youngest got an appointment, which can be very hard to do at his age. Be sure to ask for a handicap sticker for him. It will likely be helpful.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs))))) to all of you. It is hard to see your baby in pain (no matter how old he is) and it is hard to be in pain and have to move back home, esp with a rocky relationship with your dad. I hope this can bring a new and better relationship between youngest and husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 605950, member: 1233"] I am glad the medical info helped. It would be a good idea for you to go to his ortho appts with him if at all possible. I know you have been sick and that it is hard to travel, but having someone there really is helpful for both doctor and patient. This is esp true on a long term problem that started in childhood. You know the answers to questions that no one else does because you are The Mom. There is something called Emotional Intelligence and it can drop suddenly when we are under stress. Studies show that this can be more important than your IQ when you are in stressful situations, esp those with a short time and a lot of info to impart and receive. This is why MANY people do not use medications or other medical items/instructions appropriately. They are so stressed that they truly do not understand or remember what the doctor said or what they said to the doctor. Having someone with you to take notes during the appointment, even if this person never says a single word or makes a sound, drastically improves the quality and appropriateness of your medical care and in how you communicate with the doctor. Having your mom or someone who is familiar iwth your medical history, current problems, and other critical info about your life and lifestyle increases the success of your care immensely. It has been years since I saw studies on this, but the increase was truly impressive. If you are able to go and Youngest is willing, it would likely be very helpful to the doctor and to Youngest as they go about helping him through this. If he won't let anyone go into the exam room with him, please have him record the appointment on his phone or whatever voice recorder you can find. It will help him gain as much function and freedom from pain as is possible. Be aware that tobacco use increases the amt of time it takes bone to heal. Any surgery on bones will likely heal at the slow end of the recovery range and NOT the fast end. I have had 2 surgeons who refused to do spinal surgery on smokers due to this. It is becoming more and more common for docs to be less willing to operate on smokers who refuse to even try to quit during the period before and during the healing process, at least here and where we used to live. I would stay away from his pain doctor appts, or at least don't go in with him if you think it will cause problems. Your pain clinic is scary to me, but it is what is available. At least youngest got an appointment, which can be very hard to do at his age. Be sure to ask for a handicap sticker for him. It will likely be helpful. (((((hugs))))) to all of you. It is hard to see your baby in pain (no matter how old he is) and it is hard to be in pain and have to move back home, esp with a rocky relationship with your dad. I hope this can bring a new and better relationship between youngest and husband. [/QUOTE]
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