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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 102754" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Hi and welcome to the board. You have found a safe place to land.</p><p></p><p>Your situation is a very sticky one. You are right in saying that you cannot legally do anything to stop this girl from drinking because she is pregnant. However, she is only 20, and legally not old enough to drink. I don't know if you want to go down that road...</p><p></p><p>As far as you being willing to raise the baby, I commend you on that. There is a thread on this forum about that very thing. Several of our board members have stepped up to the plate and taken in a grandchild while their own child has been unable to do the child rearing properly. But you are in a iffy situation. I don't think that what you said is selfish at all, but the mom might think that you are infringing on her rights. Does she know that you intend to raise the child if she and your son are unable to? Does she plan to try? Is she still "with" your son, or was it really just a physical thing between them?</p><p></p><p>She may very well not want the responsibility of raising that baby. Perhaps you, your spouse, your son, the girl, and possibly her parents (are they even in the picture?) should have a pow wow. Drinking is a serious thing when one is pregnant. She needs to know HOW serious, and she needs to know that everyone is supporting her. I do commend her VERY highly for attempting to quit. It is not easy, and it seems to be more difficult the younger you are. </p><p></p><p>If you decide to get together for a discussion, maybe you can get some answers as to her plans. You can then plan for your own future, and so can your son. </p><p></p><p>Please post often and let us know how everything is going. The board is slow on the weekends, you will get more responses during the week.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome. (((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 102754, member: 3647"] Hi and welcome to the board. You have found a safe place to land. Your situation is a very sticky one. You are right in saying that you cannot legally do anything to stop this girl from drinking because she is pregnant. However, she is only 20, and legally not old enough to drink. I don't know if you want to go down that road... As far as you being willing to raise the baby, I commend you on that. There is a thread on this forum about that very thing. Several of our board members have stepped up to the plate and taken in a grandchild while their own child has been unable to do the child rearing properly. But you are in a iffy situation. I don't think that what you said is selfish at all, but the mom might think that you are infringing on her rights. Does she know that you intend to raise the child if she and your son are unable to? Does she plan to try? Is she still "with" your son, or was it really just a physical thing between them? She may very well not want the responsibility of raising that baby. Perhaps you, your spouse, your son, the girl, and possibly her parents (are they even in the picture?) should have a pow wow. Drinking is a serious thing when one is pregnant. She needs to know HOW serious, and she needs to know that everyone is supporting her. I do commend her VERY highly for attempting to quit. It is not easy, and it seems to be more difficult the younger you are. If you decide to get together for a discussion, maybe you can get some answers as to her plans. You can then plan for your own future, and so can your son. Please post often and let us know how everything is going. The board is slow on the weekends, you will get more responses during the week. Again, welcome. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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