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I don't know where difficult child is!!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 339123" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I would have a fit if a therapist told my difficult child that. In fact I have had several back me up when I expect chores to be done for free. I do give rewards, not always money but I am in control of when these are earned. Expecting a payment for every service rendered gives kids a sense of entitlement. What happened to just being helpful for the sake of being helpful?</p><p> </p><p>I am not a maid servant or a slave. difficult child better scrub his own tinkle tracks from the "throne" or he can go tinkle outside. If he wants to eat he better wash some dishes. etc. etc. I don't get paid to make sure we don't run out of laundry soap or get paid to prepare meals but you best believe there would be a riot if I stopped.</p><p> </p><p>Making age appropriate contributions to the family should be an expectation. That is fair for all family members, that is how life works. If and when the parents feel a monetary reward is appropriate is entirely up to them. If a family is poor and cannot afford alowance does that mean the child doesn't have to clean their room or set a table?...ridiculous.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes I wonder about the experts who come up with these theories and where on earth they get the authority to do it.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Winter is kicking my rear too. Every year I think I'm going to make it but come Jan or Feb and I am out of my gourd with cabin fever. Maybe spring will bring us all some happiness.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 339123, member: 8617"] I would have a fit if a therapist told my difficult child that. In fact I have had several back me up when I expect chores to be done for free. I do give rewards, not always money but I am in control of when these are earned. Expecting a payment for every service rendered gives kids a sense of entitlement. What happened to just being helpful for the sake of being helpful? I am not a maid servant or a slave. difficult child better scrub his own tinkle tracks from the "throne" or he can go tinkle outside. If he wants to eat he better wash some dishes. etc. etc. I don't get paid to make sure we don't run out of laundry soap or get paid to prepare meals but you best believe there would be a riot if I stopped. Making age appropriate contributions to the family should be an expectation. That is fair for all family members, that is how life works. If and when the parents feel a monetary reward is appropriate is entirely up to them. If a family is poor and cannot afford alowance does that mean the child doesn't have to clean their room or set a table?...ridiculous. Sometimes I wonder about the experts who come up with these theories and where on earth they get the authority to do it. Winter is kicking my rear too. Every year I think I'm going to make it but come Jan or Feb and I am out of my gourd with cabin fever. Maybe spring will bring us all some happiness.:winking: [/QUOTE]
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