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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 672062" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome Lwann,</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry for what you are going through but am glad you have found us here. Your story is very familiar here. It's a difficult journey but you are not alone.</p><p></p><p></p><p>It's not so much that you kicked him out as you liberated him. The term "kicked out" has such a negative undertone. Our children in the natural course of life should leave home at 18 willingly and start living their own life and being responsible. Unfortunately for us, here on this site our adult children did not launch successfully into adulthood. We as their parents have tried to help them as we don't want to see them struggle, however, there is a fine line that we cross without ever realizing it where our "helping" turns into "enabling". Of course we don't set out to enable, we love our children and again, don't want to see them struggle but then we end up in place where our world is filled with chaos that stems from our adult child. You have done what you can to help your son. You have also realized that your "helping" isn't helping so you made a difficult choice to "liberate" your son. It is now up to him how he will choose to live his life. Remember, whatever path he chooses to go down, good or bad, are his choices and his alone, you have no control over that. All you have control over is how you choose to live your own life and I hope you are choosing to live it well, to do good things for yourself.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you......................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 672062, member: 18516"] Welcome Lwann, I'm so sorry for what you are going through but am glad you have found us here. Your story is very familiar here. It's a difficult journey but you are not alone. It's not so much that you kicked him out as you liberated him. The term "kicked out" has such a negative undertone. Our children in the natural course of life should leave home at 18 willingly and start living their own life and being responsible. Unfortunately for us, here on this site our adult children did not launch successfully into adulthood. We as their parents have tried to help them as we don't want to see them struggle, however, there is a fine line that we cross without ever realizing it where our "helping" turns into "enabling". Of course we don't set out to enable, we love our children and again, don't want to see them struggle but then we end up in place where our world is filled with chaos that stems from our adult child. You have done what you can to help your son. You have also realized that your "helping" isn't helping so you made a difficult choice to "liberate" your son. It is now up to him how he will choose to live his life. Remember, whatever path he chooses to go down, good or bad, are his choices and his alone, you have no control over that. All you have control over is how you choose to live your own life and I hope you are choosing to live it well, to do good things for yourself. ((HUGS)) to you...................... [/QUOTE]
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