I had no idea so many others were dealing with the same issues. I should have known, and im so glad I found this forum. I haven't been in one as a parent for many years. When our son was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at the age of 2 I became very active in a support forum that helped us thru many difficult years. That was just the beginning. 17 years later and many diagnoses including Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Tourette's, ADHD, social anxiety, depression, severe acid reflux disease, substance abuse, many therapists, a stint in the wilderness and 6 months in a transition program later, here we are. I've become much stronger thru the process, and my son is in a different place. Not sure if he is better, or just different. We kicked him out last year, and it was a huge shock for all. He eventually got a full time job and was doing "ok", we were helping financially, (so much for tough love) but it was "working". Sort of. He said he wanted to go back to college, so we set boundaries, created an agreement around expectations for grades, etc. And were lulled into a false security. He continues to smoke lots of weed and is a binge drinker. He isn't taking care of his health doesn't test blood sugar, take medications etc. Manages to pass A1c so keeps the car... when he comes home he parties, sleeps all day and is charmingly remorseful so we have let things slide. This weekend he stole my credit card when he came home and bought pizza and beer for everyone, lied about it all, and when caught cries big tears and says he doesn't know what is wrong with him. Says he can't help it. This isn't the first time, but it is the last. If it happens again, I will prosecute. I just don't understand why he is doing it. He is so loving and kind most of the time. Is that just an act? A manipulation? I don't understand. It is heartbreaking that we can't ever trust our son. He lies all the time. About big things and things that don't even matter. He is depressed, anxious, and about to lose his only support system. I'm afraid he may die if we cut him off. He doesn't care for his diabetes. I do realize we all need to detach, and will read more about that here, and dig into others' posts. Any advice or support is greatly appreciated. broken hearted, scared and strong and ready to do what it takes. Thank you for listenng.