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I don't want to be the sacrafice anymore...
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 599913" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I guarantee you that I will not criticize you. Do you mind if I ask a few questions? Have you searched your community to see if there is any social group (yes, even one that involves playing video games) where he would be welcome for a few hours a week? I was not successful find that for my grandson but over the years I know that some places do have group activities...often thru the MH association. Have you all tried a bowling league? I did find that locally and even tho it was only one morning a week it gave him interaction with others and gave me three or four hours to enjoy some solitude.</p><p></p><p>The big question I have is "Have you taken on the role of caregiver and allowed your husband to just be the bread winner?" Very, very, very often (particularly with stepchildren) the woman feels compelled to imitate June Cleavor. I am guilty of that big time. What my husband has contributed to the childraising has been minimal. He is a good caring man. I never said "husband I need you to be in charge of the household and the kids once you get home from work. I NEED to have time to sleep, read, go out etc. How many evenings or weekend days can you take over?" IF I had done that years ago I know I would be healthier today. Can you do that?</p><p></p><p>Before packing your bags give some thought to asking for regular dependable help. You love your husband. You may be surprised by his response. I'm rooting for you but, believe me, I totally know how you feel. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 599913, member: 35"] I guarantee you that I will not criticize you. Do you mind if I ask a few questions? Have you searched your community to see if there is any social group (yes, even one that involves playing video games) where he would be welcome for a few hours a week? I was not successful find that for my grandson but over the years I know that some places do have group activities...often thru the MH association. Have you all tried a bowling league? I did find that locally and even tho it was only one morning a week it gave him interaction with others and gave me three or four hours to enjoy some solitude. The big question I have is "Have you taken on the role of caregiver and allowed your husband to just be the bread winner?" Very, very, very often (particularly with stepchildren) the woman feels compelled to imitate June Cleavor. I am guilty of that big time. What my husband has contributed to the childraising has been minimal. He is a good caring man. I never said "husband I need you to be in charge of the household and the kids once you get home from work. I NEED to have time to sleep, read, go out etc. How many evenings or weekend days can you take over?" IF I had done that years ago I know I would be healthier today. Can you do that? Before packing your bags give some thought to asking for regular dependable help. You love your husband. You may be surprised by his response. I'm rooting for you but, believe me, I totally know how you feel. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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