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I feel I'm losing it because I think I should move to Colorado and save him.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 702001" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I don't think it's denial, rather you love your child and want to make his life better. The problem is, only he can do that.</p><p></p><p>It was so hard for me to detach when my son was threatening suicide when I found out the truth about a six month conn he and girlfriend had going to get money from me. They had a fight and she called me that he was suicidal and had left in a thunderstorm. She was screaming at me over the phone, obviously high or drunk, may be both.</p><p></p><p>I called the police and they found him next door at a friends. He said he was not suicidal and there was nothing they could do.</p><p></p><p>He and girlfriend had been using the money I had been sending him to finish college courses partying every single night, all night. He had dropped out and I guess he forgot to tell me.</p><p></p><p>The same weekend he and girlfriend had a drunken brawl and the mother and girlfriend put all of his belongings out in the rain and ruined all of his musical equipment. The rest was stolen.</p><p></p><p>girlfriend was arrested and put in detox.</p><p></p><p>He called asking for money, I did offer to call and pay for a hotel room for a few nights, but he wanted money. He threatened suicide again and told me I never loved him and he was sorry he was born. I unplugged my phone after I gave him numbers for clinics. I know he was living on the streets and in the woods. It was horrible as I know it is for you. I also knew he would continue to use and abuse until he decided to stop.</p><p></p><p>The mother called me and told me how horrible I was for not helping my son. I felt completely hopeless and completely helpless. But, deep down I knew he had to work this out for himself.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong, if you give in now he will continue on this path because he knows he can wear you down. He has to have a reason to change his lifestyle, he has to want it.</p><p></p><p>It's horrible, no mother or other loved one should have to go through this. Please take care of you.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 702001, member: 13558"] I don't think it's denial, rather you love your child and want to make his life better. The problem is, only he can do that. It was so hard for me to detach when my son was threatening suicide when I found out the truth about a six month conn he and girlfriend had going to get money from me. They had a fight and she called me that he was suicidal and had left in a thunderstorm. She was screaming at me over the phone, obviously high or drunk, may be both. I called the police and they found him next door at a friends. He said he was not suicidal and there was nothing they could do. He and girlfriend had been using the money I had been sending him to finish college courses partying every single night, all night. He had dropped out and I guess he forgot to tell me. The same weekend he and girlfriend had a drunken brawl and the mother and girlfriend put all of his belongings out in the rain and ruined all of his musical equipment. The rest was stolen. girlfriend was arrested and put in detox. He called asking for money, I did offer to call and pay for a hotel room for a few nights, but he wanted money. He threatened suicide again and told me I never loved him and he was sorry he was born. I unplugged my phone after I gave him numbers for clinics. I know he was living on the streets and in the woods. It was horrible as I know it is for you. I also knew he would continue to use and abuse until he decided to stop. The mother called me and told me how horrible I was for not helping my son. I felt completely hopeless and completely helpless. But, deep down I knew he had to work this out for himself. Stay strong, if you give in now he will continue on this path because he knows he can wear you down. He has to have a reason to change his lifestyle, he has to want it. It's horrible, no mother or other loved one should have to go through this. Please take care of you. (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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