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<blockquote data-quote="tishthedish" data-source="post: 657236" data-attributes="member: 17103"><p>I do the same thing with my difficult child 2 who is a single father and our special needs grandson and my difficult child 1 who is in prison. The former got a 10-day eviction warning and the latter asked if he could move in with us when he gets out. No. No. No. No. They will say and do what your daughter is doing to you. It's a ploy. At the ages my kids are the words are not of genuine hurt or injury, they are used to manipulate. ANY adult child that has had a halfway decent upbringing who is still clamoring for more is out of line. My husband and I have what we call "The Vow". It is that we will never live under the same roof as our children no matter what chaos they create in their lives. If our good example and good parenting couldn't shape them in 26/30 years, it sure as heck isn't going to benefit them now. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I have asked the same thing about "counting". When my difficult child 2 was planning to spend his tax return on fun things I gently pointed out that he had yet to be fully supporting his son. We were still paying for all clothes, shoes, toys etc. for almost 5 years now. No the stuff we do doesn't count because to count it has to be appreciated. With kids like ours it's expected. They are entitled. Draw a line, make a vow, keep your space sacred. It sounds like they are impinging on your life more than enough without moving in with you too. I wish you luck. I will be facing the same questions in 9 days for the eviction episode and on June 9 for the prison release. I just keep repeating in my head, "the vow, the vow, the vow".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tishthedish, post: 657236, member: 17103"] I do the same thing with my difficult child 2 who is a single father and our special needs grandson and my difficult child 1 who is in prison. The former got a 10-day eviction warning and the latter asked if he could move in with us when he gets out. No. No. No. No. They will say and do what your daughter is doing to you. It's a ploy. At the ages my kids are the words are not of genuine hurt or injury, they are used to manipulate. ANY adult child that has had a halfway decent upbringing who is still clamoring for more is out of line. My husband and I have what we call "The Vow". It is that we will never live under the same roof as our children no matter what chaos they create in their lives. If our good example and good parenting couldn't shape them in 26/30 years, it sure as heck isn't going to benefit them now. I have asked the same thing about "counting". When my difficult child 2 was planning to spend his tax return on fun things I gently pointed out that he had yet to be fully supporting his son. We were still paying for all clothes, shoes, toys etc. for almost 5 years now. No the stuff we do doesn't count because to count it has to be appreciated. With kids like ours it's expected. They are entitled. Draw a line, make a vow, keep your space sacred. It sounds like they are impinging on your life more than enough without moving in with you too. I wish you luck. I will be facing the same questions in 9 days for the eviction episode and on June 9 for the prison release. I just keep repeating in my head, "the vow, the vow, the vow". [/QUOTE]
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