Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I feel selfish...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 177647" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I'm glad easy child has had this opportunity! I hope the performance goes well for her.</p><p> </p><p>Now... for you. What are you doing to take care of yourself, in a healthy manner? I understand shutting down and going into habits that aren't the most emotionally healthy (I do believe I am the Queen of those habits <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ). But seriously, your family has been thru an awful lot and being the "glue" is going to cause wear and tear on you. Plus, I would guess that there's some grieving going on not only because of what your daughter has been through but also because of your son. Regardless of the behaviors, I would think you're grieving over him too.</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like your husband is a real gem of a guy. It also sounds like he's very understanding. But I understand that feeling .... I don't know, a feeling of shutting yourself off, even from him? I think it's good you recognize it. Maybe by just setting one goal a week - a card game, a conversation (not about children), something to start that reconnection? I also think it might be good to get some counseling for yourself, just to help you start to think about things in a different light. Sometimes it helps to just spew it all out there and have a third party digest it with you.</p><p> </p><p>You are *not* selfish. It sounds like you're in survival mode right now. </p><p> </p><p>Sending you a gentle hug.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 177647, member: 8"] I'm glad easy child has had this opportunity! I hope the performance goes well for her. Now... for you. What are you doing to take care of yourself, in a healthy manner? I understand shutting down and going into habits that aren't the most emotionally healthy (I do believe I am the Queen of those habits ;) ). But seriously, your family has been thru an awful lot and being the "glue" is going to cause wear and tear on you. Plus, I would guess that there's some grieving going on not only because of what your daughter has been through but also because of your son. Regardless of the behaviors, I would think you're grieving over him too. It sounds like your husband is a real gem of a guy. It also sounds like he's very understanding. But I understand that feeling .... I don't know, a feeling of shutting yourself off, even from him? I think it's good you recognize it. Maybe by just setting one goal a week - a card game, a conversation (not about children), something to start that reconnection? I also think it might be good to get some counseling for yourself, just to help you start to think about things in a different light. Sometimes it helps to just spew it all out there and have a third party digest it with you. You are *not* selfish. It sounds like you're in survival mode right now. Sending you a gentle hug. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I feel selfish...
Top