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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 726964" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that he keeps trying to dump the blame for his lack of options on you. You are not the one keeping him from having a place to live. Hopefully her family will keep them occupied for a few days. If I were you I would stand your ground and make him figure it out. </p><p></p><p>If you keep solving his problems, he won't ever develop the ability to do so. Tell him that you believe in him and you know that he can figure this out. If you feel you must help, get a list of shelters and agencies that help the homeless. Include the local soup kitchens. This is only a suggestion, but it can be helpful. </p><p></p><p>One member who used to be here kept a list by her phone and copies of it by her door. If her difficult child came over or called, she gave that information to him and his girl. She felt he had to learn to cope as an adult. If she continued to pay his way and to feed and clothe him, she was standing in his way. She was actually keeping him from learning to be an adult if she didn't make him take on adult responsibilities. I am NOT saying that you have to do this now, or ever. I am suggesting it as something you might want to do, or at least think about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 726964, member: 1233"] I am sorry that he keeps trying to dump the blame for his lack of options on you. You are not the one keeping him from having a place to live. Hopefully her family will keep them occupied for a few days. If I were you I would stand your ground and make him figure it out. If you keep solving his problems, he won't ever develop the ability to do so. Tell him that you believe in him and you know that he can figure this out. If you feel you must help, get a list of shelters and agencies that help the homeless. Include the local soup kitchens. This is only a suggestion, but it can be helpful. One member who used to be here kept a list by her phone and copies of it by her door. If her difficult child came over or called, she gave that information to him and his girl. She felt he had to learn to cope as an adult. If she continued to pay his way and to feed and clothe him, she was standing in his way. She was actually keeping him from learning to be an adult if she didn't make him take on adult responsibilities. I am NOT saying that you have to do this now, or ever. I am suggesting it as something you might want to do, or at least think about. [/QUOTE]
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